Are You Co-Dependent?

    A person is said to be co-dependent when they overly rely on another person for their happiness and emotional needs. They pursue this external source of fulfilment instead of focusing on themselves primarily. Co-dependents engage in self sacrifice and subjugation. They often put their needs behind the needs of their partner and this […]

Are You Co-Dependent?

Codependency signifies an unhealthy attachment in a relationship. Often, one person is clingy and needy and wants to merge with their partner. Low self esteem and insecurity is at the heart of this type of attachment and leads to people pleasing and attempts to rescue others in order to be wanted and needed.The focus in […]

Pros and Cons of euthanasia

  Pros and Cons of euthanasia The story below was featured on BBC news today and it isn’t an isolated case. I believe everyone should have the choice about how they die if they suffer from a terminal illness that is progressive. I wonder when the law will catch up and make it legal. Of […]

How to overcome insecurities in a relationship

  How to overcome insecurities in a relationship Feeling insecure often has to do with low self esteem and a negative inner dialogue. Part of dealing with insecurities in a relationship consists of working on yourself – identify yur strengths and know what you are worth. Tell yourself that whomever has your love is a […]

How the unconscious mind works

  How the unconscious mind works Your unconscious mind is a vast storage centre for all your memories -it’s capacity is virtually limitless. Your unconscious memory is often perfect but memories can be distorted when we try to recall them with our conscious mind. Your unconscious mind is subjective – it doesn’t think or reason […]

Social compliance

  Social compliance Social compliance serves its purpose and keeps order in society to a certain degree but what happens when we stop thinking for ourselves and just do what is expected of us? Standing out from the crowd is a good thing but this is conditioned out of us – we feel pressure to […]

Examples of controlling behaviour

Examples of controlling behaviour The following behaviors characterize a controlling person: (a) A person who insists on things being done their way. Threats of leaving or the ‘silent treatment’ is used to elicit compliance. (b) A person who tries to get the other to be passive and accepting, even to be willing to change aspects of their personality […]

Signs of an independent woman

  Signs of an independent woman There are certain characteristics that independent women share. These women have moved away from always being the one to sacrifice for others and who is prepared to sit quietly in the shadow of others. She comes into the light and she is not afraid to show her beautiful colours… […]