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Human Behaviour

Marriage Myths

Marriage Myths

  Marriage Myths 1) Happy couples never argue Even the happiest and most stable couples have their fights. What makes a good marriage is not simply ‘chemistry’ but how the partners handle conflict. 2) You can influence your partner to be more in line with […]

Common patterns of behaviour

Common patterns of behaviour

As a counsellor, I am very privileged in the common patterns of behaviour that I witness. I have met many individuals and couples with their own unique challenges and this has allowed me to create links between certain characteristics/behaviour and mental health issues. I thought […]

Titles and facades

Titles and facades

I was driving in my car the other days and drove past a recruitment sign outside a nursery for young childre, The sign was looking to recruit “nursery practitioners”. I remember thinking that seemed a stiff, odd title for people who look after children and […]

Things you don’t need for happiness

Things you don’t need for happiness

  Things you don’t need for happiness Here are things you don’t need for happiness and they will help you to be more aware that life can be simpler and more fun than we realise. . I have found that many people spend inordinate amounts […]

Thoughts on failure

Thoughts on failure

  Thoughts on failure What are your thoughts on failure? Is it a lack of financial success? Is it owning a small house or being single? We all have different ideas about failure and the beliefs we cling to will determine how negatively failure impacts […]

Your thoughts aren’t real

Your thoughts aren’t real

“The quality of your life is determined solely by the relationship you have to your own thinking” – R.Carlson Your thoughts aren’t real Okay, hear me out. The idea that your thoughts aren’t real may seem bizarre but once I have finished explaining you will […]

What are safety behaviours?

What are safety behaviours?

Photo by UltraSlo1 What are safety behaviours? We all engage in safety behaviours to differing degrees. A safety behaviour is something we do to provide us relief from anxiety. The problem with safety behaviours is that they only work temporarily and our attempts to self […]

The daily grind

The daily grind

  Photo by matsuyuki The Daily Grind   Apologies to those of you who aren’t Katy Perry fans but this video is brilliant as it is a great example of “purposeful pop”. Katy Perry sings about a theme park called Oblivia and being “chained to […]