Start your own parade

 

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Start your own parade

Have you ever noticed someone doing something daring or brave and thought to yourself, ‘If they can do it then that means it’s okay for me to do it”. What I am referring to in the title of this blog “Start your own parade”, is that we don’t need permission to do anything but often we feel we do. We are socially conditioned to fit in, be nice and tow the line.

I have wanted to do things in the past or say things but have been reluctant to do so. Fear has stopped me. Fear of rejection or humiliation. Yet when I see someone else doing it, it somehow seems that I now have permission.

This concept of needing permission is just a perception though, it is a belief that I have chosen to obey. I can just as easily choose not to obey a thought or adapt an outdated belief.

Start your own parade – do what you want to do. Be brave -a pioneer, a front runner. You don’t need permission and you certainly don’t need to wait for someone else to do it first for it to be acceptable. This is what I have learned recently and I wanted to share.

So get out there, say what you want, do what you wish – be kind and be inspiring, the world needs you!

Mandy X

Appreciate the living

 

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Appreciate the living

When we appreciate the living, we are engaged in life and are more likely to enjoy those fleeting moments of happiness. Those moments of happiness register on our ‘happiness radar’ for a few seconds and then they’re gone. I have experienced these moments when I have been sharing a joke with a friend or even just sitting quietly next to someone I really care about.

Appreciate the living – the ones who make you smile and inspire you. Just because someone is alive doesn’t mean you have to appreciate them. Some people are mean-spirited and nasty, I certainly appreciate those people a lot less. Although, understanding WHY they are mean spirited or nasty does make it easier to tolerate them.

The world is full of amazing, kind people. I never let a good deed go unnoticed and enjoy offering genuine compliments as often as possible. I may sound a bit “Polly-Anna-ish” but I enjoy spreading goodwill and making others smile. That makes me happy.

If there is someone in your life who you appreciate, tell them. Don’t waste an opportunity to let them know how important they are to you. Life is unpredictable, savour moments with loved ones and make many happy memories along the way.

Mandy X

 

Thoughts on failure

 

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Thoughts on failure

What are your thoughts on failure? Is it a lack of financial success? Is it owning a small house or being single? We all have different ideas about failure and the beliefs we cling to will determine how negatively failure impacts upon us.

Many of my clients blur the lines of failure. They blur the lines between failure being a verb and failure being a noun. I will often hear them say “I am a failure”. This is the number one rule about the concept of failure: Failure is a verb. A person isn’t a failure. Negative thoughts can create intense negative emotions, so spare yourself the grief by being aware of the nature of your thoughts. Never ever see yourself as a failure. Yes, perhaps something to tried to do didn’t work out but that certainly doesn’t equate to the ‘doer’ as a failure. Big difference!

In my books, life is a series of trial and error. We win some, we lose some. Failures show that we are alive and that we are trying. I see that as commendable. I view failure as giving up completely. If you are still trying and haven’t let life beat you down, you aren’t failing.

See failure as your friend. When you look at the process of failure as a a valuable lesson, you will no longer fear making mistakes and…well…failing.

Get living and get failing and see that as success!

 

Mandy X