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Four sins in relationships

Four sins in relationships

According to John Gottman, there are four sins in relationships. These four major sins can destroy a good relationship. John Gottman refers to these four sins in relationships as the “four horsemen of the apocalypse”, in other words, with these sins present, your relationship will […]

Death and divorce

Death and divorce

The end of a relationship is tough going emotionally. A client came to see me recently as she was upset over a recent break up and she made a very valid point. She told me about a woman at her work whose husband had died […]

People in abusive relationships

People in abusive relationships

Working with couples is something I have done for many years. During my work experience, I have gained a lot of information and knowledge in the types of people who tend to end up in abusive relationships. Abusive relationships can happen to the best of […]

Marriage Myths

Marriage Myths

  Marriage Myths 1) Happy couples never argue Even the happiest and most stable couples have their fights. What makes a good marriage is not simply ‘chemistry’ but how the partners handle conflict. 2) You can influence your partner to be more in line with […]

Roles in relationships

Roles in relationships

  Just think about it. There are many roles that you play as do the rest of us. I have many different roles – mother, daughter, sister, girlfriend, counsellor, friend etc  With each role that we play, we draw on different mindsets and slightly different […]

How to deal with difficult people

How to deal with difficult people

There’s just no reasoning with some people. I know a few who are very moody and difficult to communicate with. When things don’t go their way, they go into ‘child mode’ and behave in an unreasonable way. People who are in healthy ‘adult mode’ will […]

Secrets of a long lasting relationship

Secrets of a long lasting relationship

I am a couple counsellor and I have observed many types of relationships over the years. Good ones, bad ones and inbetween ones. There are certain patterns that emerge in most relationships and there are definitely characteristics that are present in all types of relationships. […]

Compatible partners

Compatible partners

How compatible do you think you are with your partner? It’s not rocket science and more often than not, people know deep down whether they are compatible. Even people who aren’t compatible can make it work although their relationship will have far more ups and […]