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Life sucks sometimes

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Life sucks sometimes

It’s a fact, life sucks sometimes. People come into your life and steal your heart and then leave just as quickly as they entered.It’s hard to open up again and take the risk of letting someone else in. Should you trust them with your fragile feelings? I guess life is a risk and you can protect yourself forever or you can be brave and try to let love back in again. Life sucks for various reasons not just due to fading relationships.

I am writing this as it is close to my heart and I like to use this blog to write about all sorts of things. My own life serves as inspiration for blog posts, especially when I know there are many others experiencing similar things. I try to use hard times to learn and apply my professional experience to heal. I use this to help others if I can and to support my clients going through similar things. No one is immune to life, no matter how much ‘wisdom’ and/or knowledge you have.

Being rejected for something you have no control over is tough. He loved me until I told him I had health issues and that was that. He hung in but not for too long. Heart break central! His loss…

You have to believe that things happen for a reason. Being philosophical can be a blessing in life. Some things are beyond our control – like the feelings and thoughts of other people.

What needs to happen – focus on yourself, the only thing you can control. Make the most of yourself, never put yourself down and know that you are special whether someone else recognises it or not. Don’t allow your value and self worth to be wrapped up in the validation from others. Easier said than done but work on loving who you are. Someone who doesn’t want to be with you doesn’t deserve you in the first place. A broken relationship leaves you free to find the person who will love you, warts and all.

Well, that’s what I tell myself and it seems to work most of the time! Life sucks but always remember it won’t (thankfully) stay that way. Visualise yourself in the future, happy and carefree again. Each day, every second – you are closer to that happier place!

Mandy X

Saint or Sinner?

Good vs evil

Good vs evil

Nobody is all good or all bad. Wouldn’t life be so much simpler if people were all good or all bad? We’d be able to tell the difference immediately and we’d be able to stick with the angels and make our excuses with the devils. Job done.

We live in a world where sinners can seem angelic (or are very adept and conning others into believing they are something they’re not)and saints can be mistaken for sinners. So, how do we learn to tell the difference? So many clients come to see me bemoaning the state of their relationships. Some of them are in abusive relationships yet despite all the atrocious behaviour they have to put up with, they will still meekly remind me “they’re not all bad”. “He/she doesn’t abuse me that often”.

They justify the behaviour in order to cope with it. If they can somehow blame themselves or minimise the bad behaviour by blaming it on stress or their partner’s job, it seems more acceptable. It’s easier to live with. There is no way they would stick around in their relationship if the full awareness of what the reality is hit them.

Other see it, they don’t. So, there’s one example of how we can be saints and sinners..depending on the circumstances. Some people bring out the worst in us, others bring out the best.

When does the sinner in you emerge and when does the saint arrive? Our sinner-side can be great so long as we have a good moral background to keep us grounded. If we don’t, the sinner side can represent our unhealthy characteristics.

Identify when you are a sinner or a saint. What are your triggers? Do they work for you and keep your life happy? Letting your sinner out to have some fun can be good for you. We all need to let off steam at times and the healthiest way to live life is to use both sides of our character to release different energies. Accept the good with the bad and know how to use them well to your advantage.

Mandy X