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Tag: fear

I’ve lost my way

I’ve lost my way

“I’ve lost my way” is something I have heard many times over the years from friends and clients alike. I have lost my way too at various stages in my life. Part of life is feeling lost and if you’ve never felt lost you must […]

How to reduce avoidant behaviour

How to reduce avoidant behaviour

Photo by theglobalpanorama How to reduce avoidant behaviour Fear often underpins avoidant behaviour. When we don’t like the idea of something or it seems threatening, the easiest option is to avoid the feared person/object/event. The bog problem with avoidant behaviour is that when we avoid […]

Reducing fear in life

Reducing fear in life

Reducing fear in life Anticipation is often far worse than the reality. Our thoughts can invite crazy fear into our lives that may not even exist. As they say – when you are in your own mind, you are in enemy territory. For many people […]

How to face your fears

How to face your fears

  How to face your fears What are you afraid of? Do you avoid relationships because you fear rejection? Do you avoid job interviews as you worry you will fail? Fear is everywhere but it’s mostly in our minds. I know that seems a contradiction […]

The cause of anxiety

The cause of anxiety

  The cause of anxiety In cognitive behavioural therapy, we refer to the anxiety equation. The anxiety equation shows the cause of anxiety. Overestimation of the threat ____________________________________  =  Anxiety Underestimation of ability to cope Anxiety is always caused by our overestimation of the perceived […]

Stop running away

Stop running away

  Stop running away When life gets overwhelming, it is tempting to want to avoid problems, pretend they aren’t there and numb ourselves with some from of escapism such as alcohol, drugs, excessive spending, illicit affairs and so on. The problem with this strategy is […]

How to challenge worry

How to challenge worry

  How to challenge worry Worrying is a waste of time- it expends mental energy but doesn’t solve anything. Solution focused worry is the best type of worry but most worry is made up of random ‘nonsense’ thoughts that destroy the current moment by sucking […]

What’s stopping you?

What’s stopping you?

  What’s stopping you? When you look at your life, do you feel that the life you have is the one you wanted? Often, misery and dissatisfaction comes from the wide gap between how our life really is and how we wished it would be. […]