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The one sure-fire way to meet dates, guaranteed

 

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The one sure-fire way to meet dates, guaranteed

Description: We detail the one tried-and-true method to guaranteed to land you a perfect date.

Meeting other singles and landing dates is less about finding the perfect place at the perfect time and more about the tried and true cliché: Put. Yourself. Out. There. And we mean that. Set an intention and practice, practice, practice. It will become easier with time, and if you want something, go and get it. In any way, shape or form, make yourself known. What, besides your pride, do you have to lose? Once it is out of the way, a new, confident and authentic you can emerge, and that you knows how to get yourself a date.

Don’t consider yourself to be a social creature? Strip off your fear and be bold.

Break that mold. Go somewhere that’s introvert-friendly, like a coffee shop, with a good book. Get hopped up on caffeine and sit in the cozy chair next to the cute girl reading on the couch. Ask her about the book she’s leafing through. Ask about her her views on the universe. Her favorite music. Be interesting and intelligent. Don’t worry if it doesn’t go anywhere. Consider it your homework. Consider it your networking: meeting people in order to meet other people, and in the process, meeting that lady of your dreams. Being friendly isn’t difficult once you get past that whole big fear of rejection thing.

Go to a bar. Get in enough coffee-shop practice under your belt, so you don’t have to get sloppy drunk before you strike up a conversation because believe me, that won’t work in your favor. Sit next to somebody who looks nice. Is it a lonely old man, and you are a straight guy in your 20s? No matter. Talk about music. Talk about travel. Talk about your grandiose plans for your life. Ask them about theirs. And maybe the cute girl sitting next to that old guy will catch wind and join in your jovial chatter. Maybe tonight will be your night.

Or skip the legal uppers and downers and think of the coolest, most interesting thing you’ve always wanted to learn about but never had the balls. Glass-blowing? Woodworking? Metalsmithing? Foraging for mushrooms? There’s a class for that. You may have to travel forty miles to the closest city to do it, but it will be worth it. Because if it’s the coolest most interesting thing to you, then chances are, you will vibe hard with somebody else in the class who also thinks it’s the coolest most interesting thing. And even if you don’t meet anybody, the next time you settle down next to a girl in a coffee shop, you will get to tell her about that impressive, crazy-cool passion of yours that you’ve recently honed.

Get on the internet. Sign up for a dating site like quickflirt.com. Set up a date with a hottie. And on that date, you will have a wealth of rad experience to draw from. You will be at ease with yourself, great at conversation, and be able to tell her about the insane war stories from the old man sitting next to you at the bar, pimp your interesting skill, and talk about the value of quality coffee. And all that experience, willingness to be vulnerable, and practice will have been worth it.

Mandy X

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Internet Dating experiences – Fun Activity Rating 5/10

 

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Internet Dating experiences – Fun Activity Rating 5/10

My internet dating experiences started out well despite being a little naive in my expectations. I imagined that I would find someone suited to me  and skip off into the sunset. I didn’t realise the dynamics that exist, especially among people who have been internet dating for quite some time. The longer you date online, the fussier you get. A mindset of “there might be something better out there” pervades and I became influenced by this thinking. Internet dating experiences become a little like going ‘people shopping’. I know that sounds distasteful but it’s true.

I did meet some wonderful people, some I am still friends with today and I had some amazing experiences that would probably never have come my way without internet dating as the catalyst. I also learned to be more thick skinned and philosophical about the rejections.  People would treat you like the most amazing thing to ever enter their life and just as quickly, they would disappear – never to be heard from again. Some men were married and downplayed the status of their marriage telling me they were separated when in fact things were still chugging along nicely with no intention of separation. Some people were much older than stated on their profile.

I met lawyers, doctors, pilots, CEO’s and some minor celebrities. Many of the men I met told me that on some of the websites there were many prostitutes looking for business.The irony was that the men who hounded me to meet up and sent me video messages, endless emails etc were often the ones that I would eventually agree to meet and then never hear from again. You have to be able to read people well to survive internet dating.

So, apart from some of the amazing experiences I had and the people I met and stayed friends with, I would say that ultimately, I would prefer to meet a man the ‘normal’ way – at work, through friends or whilst out and about. I truly believe that the types of people you meet in day to day life have a different mindset to people who have been internet dating over a long period.

I am not saying I would never try internet dating again but in terms of preserving my emotional well being, it may not be the best way forward.

Mandy X