When we appreciate the living, we are engaged in life and are more likely to enjoy those fleeting moments of happiness. Those moments of happiness register on our ‘happiness radar’ for a few seconds and then they’re gone. I have experienced these moments when I have been sharing a joke with a friend or even just sitting quietly next to someone I really care about.
Appreciate the living – the ones who make you smile and inspire you. Just because someone is alive doesn’t mean you have to appreciate them. Some people are mean-spirited and nasty, I certainly appreciate those people a lot less. Although, understanding WHY they are mean spirited or nasty does make it easier to tolerate them.
The world is full of amazing, kind people. I never let a good deed go unnoticed and enjoy offering genuine compliments as often as possible. I may sound a bit “Polly-Anna-ish” but I enjoy spreading goodwill and making others smile. That makes me happy.
If there is someone in your life who you appreciate, tell them. Don’t waste an opportunity to let them know how important they are to you. Life is unpredictable, savour moments with loved ones and make many happy memories along the way.
Whether you are passive, aggressive or assertive, you teach others how to treat you. Doing nothing still sends a message to others. For example – if you meet someone for dinner and they turn up half an hour late. The way you react to their lateness will send a message to the other person. If you ignore it, the other person will consciously or unconsciously make a note that you don’t mind them being late. If however you make a joke of it and let them know that you don’t like being kept waiting, it is less likely that they will keep you waiting in the future.
We inadvertently give off messages to others all the time, showing them how to treat us. When we allow unreasonable behaviour or abusive behaviour from others, we are in effect, giving them the ‘green light’ to continue treating us in the same way.
If you want to be treated with dignity and respect, make sure that you are assertive and make a point of telling someone what you will and won’t accept when they cross boundaries.
We are constantly testing others, even when we don’t realise it. Others are testing us too. Develop a strong solid core, know yourself well and you will be able to withstand manipulation from others. Make sure you know what your boundaries are and what you will and won’t accept from others and you will find your relationships a lot easier to deal with.