Tag Archives: happy relationship

Ultimate Relationships

happy couple photo

Ultimate Relationships

Ultimate relationships don’t just happen. They require effort and attention to bring out their best potential. If you would like extra help to take your relationship to the next level, keep on reading…

True fulfillment can only be found in one thing: the emotional power of our personal relationships.

Have you become complacent in your passion? Or, have you resigned to not pursuing romantic partnership at all? Rarely do you see a couple united in both love and attraction, able to sustain their power decade after decade. But, greater passion is possible!

In the Ultimate Relationship, Tony and Sage Robbins share the tools, insights and principles they have created and discovered through their journey, learning together as a couple, and working with people from every walk of life experiencing the same issues. They can help you to figure out where you really are in your relationships, where you want to be and what’s stopping you from having it all.

Just imagine what love coaching through the combined power of Tony and Sage Robbins can do for you — learn a results-oriented approach for attracting your ideal life partner, strengthening your relationship and reignite the passion you and your partner once shared.

Regardless of your past experience or current relationship, the potential for creating something deeper, richer and lasting is within your grasp.

Take action now and experience what’s possible when you transform your beliefs, eliminate your fears and master the fundamental skills necessary to create your ultimate relationship.

Mandy X

Tony’s newest program

Click here to get Tony Robbins’ Ultimate Relationship Program!

Testimonials:

Audrey, 34: I have tried this programme recommended by Mandy and have found it incredible. 100% recommended.

Bryan, 46: This programme is brilliant. I am very impressed and it has helped my wife and I reconnect.

The perfect stranger

 

perfect stranger

The perfect stranger

When we feel dissatisfied with our relationships, it can be tempting to fantasise about what life could be like with someone that was more like us, was more loving, more supportive etc

It’s easy to fall into the trap of the perfect stranger – the idea that there is someone who will fulfil our needs and be more compatible for us than our existing partner. Of course, there is the possibility that there is someone out there that would be better suited to you but when we put too much focus on the idea of perfect stranger, we can stop putting enough effort into making our existing relationships work. If you are good companions, fancy each other and enjoy being together most of the time, that’s a great foundation/base to work with. Don’t always assume that someone else will be better. We all have bad habits and no one is perfect. Give up the idea that someone better is around the corner. It will increase your dissatisfaction and may end up a self fulfilling prophecy. Be happy with what you have if most of the time, you tend to chug along quite happily.

Mandy X

5 Things confident people do in relationships

 

confidence in relationships

5 Things confident people do in relationships

 

  1. They assume all is fine in the relationship unless told otherwise

Instead of focusing on what might be wrong and allowing insecurities to get the better of them, confident people assume that everything is going well in their relationship unless told otherwise. They expect that their partner will love them and care for them because they value themselves and see their strengths and value to others.  Confident people don’t attach their worth to how others treat them. They know their own worth and as such have healthy boundaries in relationships.

2. They ask for what they want

Confident people have no trouble asking for what they want in a relationship. They will never assume the other person is a mind reader. They will be clear and ask that their needs are met. They are good communicators and aren’t afraid to talk about touchy subjects. Communication is the key to a happy relationship as it allows issues to be dealt with without an emotional ‘backlog’ of resentment building up.

3. They take responsibility for their part in the relationship

Confident people in relationships understand that they are mutually responsible for the success of the relationship and don’t put all of the responsibility on to their partners. They put their far share of love, affection and energy into making the relationship work and don’t shy away when the going gets tough. They easily see the bigger picture when they relationship hits a rocky patch.

4. They see rejection as incompatibility rather than as something wrong with them

When they are rejected they don’t spend time agonising over what they did wrong or whether they aren’t good enough. They are philosophical and understand that there are times when two people need to go their separate ways due to incompatibility.

5. They maintain their identity

Confident people stay true to their basic character and don’t stop doing things they love for the sake of a relationship. They understand that it is healthy to have your own interests and to have time apart as it creates more interest in the relationship. Insecure people try too hard to please whereas confident people know they need to be themselves. It’s exhausting and unsustainable to pretend to be someone you’re not.

Enjoy the relationship and accept it for what it is. Communicate regularly and never try to change your partner’s fundamental characteristics. A good relationship can be a wonderful source of love and support and we can all do with an ally or two in this world!

Mandy X

Push Pull relationships

push pull relationships

Push Pull relationships

You may be wondering what a ‘push pull’ relationship is and whether you have ever experienced one. It’s a common dynamic that emerges in many relationships and is a typical example of game playing. One partner gushes over the other, full of praise and keen interest (the pusher). The other person enjoys the attention and gets lulled into a false sense of security. The revel in the attention and feel special and valued. The pusher then seems to lose interest and pulls away causing the other partner to immediately wonder what they have done wrong.

This is classic push and pull and leaves a relationship full of tension and instability. Of course some people thrive on this dynamic but the truth is that no one’s emotions can withstand this kind of emotional roller coaster indefinitely. Sooner or later. emotions become frayed and insecurities become insurmountable.

We all like a bit of a challenge in a relationship but the classic push pull manouevre can become emotionally exhausting. We think we are loved and accepted, and then rug gets pulled and we begin to doubt our perceptions. What have I done? I thought they liked me but now I don;t understand why they have changed their attitude and behaviour towards me?

Very confusing for mentally healthy and balanced people. The constant second guessing is no fun. The perceived rejection causes the receiver of the push-pull behaviour to do their best to regain the love and attention they felt in the beginning. They pursue the ‘pusher’ thereby putting them back in charge of the relationship – the ball is now in the pusher’s court, so to speak. A powerless place to be for the unsuspecting person who is just looking for love.

The typical longevity of this type of relationship is about two years. Learn to recognise the dynamic and steer clear of it. Pushers are often afraid of commitment and put these emotional barriers in place to control the status of the relationship. Sadly, people who experienced a lack of love in childhood might be drawn to this familiar pattern of having to fight for love and become addicted to trying to get the pusher to change their ways, usually unsuccessfully. They fear abandonment and try harder to please the pusher which ironically forces the pusher away even further.

Recognising the pattern is the first step and if both people see they are trying to heal old wounds, they can start to heal and trust, breaking the pattern in the process.

Love should feel good, safe and wonderful not fearful, scary and hard work.

Mandy X