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Life sucks sometimes

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Life sucks sometimes

It’s a fact, life sucks sometimes. People come into your life and steal your heart and then leave just as quickly as they entered.It’s hard to open up again and take the risk of letting someone else in. Should you trust them with your fragile feelings? I guess life is a risk and you can protect yourself forever or you can be brave and try to let love back in again. Life sucks for various reasons not just due to fading relationships.

I am writing this as it is close to my heart and I like to use this blog to write about all sorts of things. My own life serves as inspiration for blog posts, especially when I know there are many others experiencing similar things. I try to use hard times to learn and apply my professional experience to heal. I use this to help others if I can and to support my clients going through similar things. No one is immune to life, no matter how much ‘wisdom’ and/or knowledge you have.

Being rejected for something you have no control over is tough. He loved me until I told him I had health issues and that was that. He hung in but not for too long. Heart break central! His loss…

You have to believe that things happen for a reason. Being philosophical can be a blessing in life. Some things are beyond our control – like the feelings and thoughts of other people.

What needs to happen – focus on yourself, the only thing you can control. Make the most of yourself, never put yourself down and know that you are special whether someone else recognises it or not. Don’t allow your value and self worth to be wrapped up in the validation from others. Easier said than done but work on loving who you are. Someone who doesn’t want to be with you doesn’t deserve you in the first place. A broken relationship leaves you free to find the person who will love you, warts and all.

Well, that’s what I tell myself and it seems to work most of the time! Life sucks but always remember it won’t (thankfully) stay that way. Visualise yourself in the future, happy and carefree again. Each day, every second – you are closer to that happier place!

Mandy X

Coping after a breakup

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Coping after a breakup

Surviving the heartache of a breakup is tough. It can be one the most gruelling emotional experiences you can go through. Coping after a breakup is possible though, here are small little things you can do to inch yourself towards happier days…

One important question to ask yourself

Coping after a breakup involves healing and time. You must also ask yourself this question,

“What needs of mine were not met?”. Looking back at the relationship, what needs of yours were not fulfilled? Once a relationship is over, focusing on what wasn’t good can help propel your forward.

Make a list

No one is perfect and there must have been things that your ex did that you didn’t like. Make a list of all their annoying habits and things you didn’t like about the relationship and read it when you start to reminisce about the relationship’s positive attributes.

Look forward and be philosophical

Believe that everything happens for a reason and that there is a higher purpose for this breakup. If your partner split up with you, it is much better to be with someone who wants to be with you. They are out there. It may not seem like it at the moment when you feel so down in the dumps but there is someone out there who is better suited to you. If you initiated the break up, there must have been a valid reason – remind yourself of this.

It takes time to fully heal from a breakup. Be kind and compassionate towards yourself and don’t listen to the self critical thoughts (I am worthless, no one will ever love me) and the negative thinking. You will get to a better place. In the meantime, take it one day at a time and know that each day you will be closer to feeling back to your normal self again.

Mandy X