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5 Signs of a Good Dating Chat Room

 

 

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5 Signs of a Good Dating Chat Room

Some people will hear the words ‘online,’ ‘chat room,’ and ‘dating’ and immediately run screaming in the other direction. There has been a stigma attached to online dating in the past, but over the last decade, that stigma has lifted and the online dating community is thriving. Finding a good dating chat room can seem daunting, given that there are hundreds of websites out there, and the thought of being cat-fished is a shadow lingering in the back of most people’s minds.

So, here are some signs of what to look for when searching for a good dating on chat room.

1. Is it for You?

There are good chat rooms, and there are good chat rooms for you. A good dating chat room is subjective to your own interests, and finding the niche that suits your tastes is important. There are chat rooms especially for LGBTQIA+ individuals, for women, for men, for naughty chat, for people looking for flings and those looking for longer relationships.

Figure out what you are looking for, and that will help narrow down the pool of possible chat rooms available to you.

Now, some chat rooms are general and don’t cater to specific interests. These aren’t necessarily bad, but finding one that, for example, is explicitly for young singles looking for long term commitments will make finding a potential partner an easier process. Keep this tip in mind for the rest of the article.

2. Profiling

Even if you can’t find a site that tailors to what you are looking for, a good chat site will have some sort of profile system. Fleshing out your own profile makes it easier for people to find you. This works both ways. Knowing a few key facts about someone can help you decide whether or not you are truly interested in starting a conversation with them.

3. No Creepers Please

You knew this one was coming. Yes, there are people out there who are catfishing, or are just creeps in general. Almost any website with a chat or comment forum will have a ‘report abuse’ or blocking function. Before signing up for any chat room, look for how to report or block creepers and, if possible, find out how admin deals with them. If it is not in the FAQ or About Us section, then maybe pick another chat room.

No one likes dealing with creepers, and a chat room that does not let you block them is one you want to avoid.

4. Free or Subscription-Based?

There are pros and cons for both free and subscription based chat rooms.

* Paid services

Pros:

Paid services will most often have professional staff behind the scenes, which is good for when you are having issues with the aforementioned creepers or something as simple as tech trouble. Constant staff also means that the website itself will be kept in good order. Further, a paid service will root out most of the people fishing around for a lark, and those that are not old enough for a credit card.

Cons:

You have to hand over some hard earned cash.

* Unpaid services

Pros:

It is free, which is always a glorious thing.

Cons:

Free online services usually also mean that there isn’t a thorough screening process for signing up. Anyone can join. And boy, do I mean anyone.

Side note for both paid and free sites: There is also the fact that paid services will usually have smaller pools of active members and unpaid services will have more. Depending on your point of view, these can be pros or cons. If someone has paid to use a dating chat room, they are likely more invested in finding a partner – though someone equally eager for a relationship may simply not want to pay for such a service.

5. Chat options

Finally, a good dating chat room will have options for private conversations. It might seem self-explanatory for a chat room to have such things, but you would be surprised at how diverse peoples’ tastes can be. Some like throwing their profile into a crowd, others like browsing through listings and searching for someone who strikes their fancy.

Really, it is all about finding the right chat room for you. There are plenty of options out there, and there are just as many fish in the virtual sea. Don’t rush, take your time, and you’ll find the right fit.

Mandy X

The one sure-fire way to meet dates, guaranteed

 

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The one sure-fire way to meet dates, guaranteed

Description: We detail the one tried-and-true method to guaranteed to land you a perfect date.

Meeting other singles and landing dates is less about finding the perfect place at the perfect time and more about the tried and true cliché: Put. Yourself. Out. There. And we mean that. Set an intention and practice, practice, practice. It will become easier with time, and if you want something, go and get it. In any way, shape or form, make yourself known. What, besides your pride, do you have to lose? Once it is out of the way, a new, confident and authentic you can emerge, and that you knows how to get yourself a date.

Don’t consider yourself to be a social creature? Strip off your fear and be bold.

Break that mold. Go somewhere that’s introvert-friendly, like a coffee shop, with a good book. Get hopped up on caffeine and sit in the cozy chair next to the cute girl reading on the couch. Ask her about the book she’s leafing through. Ask about her her views on the universe. Her favorite music. Be interesting and intelligent. Don’t worry if it doesn’t go anywhere. Consider it your homework. Consider it your networking: meeting people in order to meet other people, and in the process, meeting that lady of your dreams. Being friendly isn’t difficult once you get past that whole big fear of rejection thing.

Go to a bar. Get in enough coffee-shop practice under your belt, so you don’t have to get sloppy drunk before you strike up a conversation because believe me, that won’t work in your favor. Sit next to somebody who looks nice. Is it a lonely old man, and you are a straight guy in your 20s? No matter. Talk about music. Talk about travel. Talk about your grandiose plans for your life. Ask them about theirs. And maybe the cute girl sitting next to that old guy will catch wind and join in your jovial chatter. Maybe tonight will be your night.

Or skip the legal uppers and downers and think of the coolest, most interesting thing you’ve always wanted to learn about but never had the balls. Glass-blowing? Woodworking? Metalsmithing? Foraging for mushrooms? There’s a class for that. You may have to travel forty miles to the closest city to do it, but it will be worth it. Because if it’s the coolest most interesting thing to you, then chances are, you will vibe hard with somebody else in the class who also thinks it’s the coolest most interesting thing. And even if you don’t meet anybody, the next time you settle down next to a girl in a coffee shop, you will get to tell her about that impressive, crazy-cool passion of yours that you’ve recently honed.

Get on the internet. Sign up for a dating site like quickflirt.com. Set up a date with a hottie. And on that date, you will have a wealth of rad experience to draw from. You will be at ease with yourself, great at conversation, and be able to tell her about the insane war stories from the old man sitting next to you at the bar, pimp your interesting skill, and talk about the value of quality coffee. And all that experience, willingness to be vulnerable, and practice will have been worth it.

Mandy X

Is it really possible to find ‘the one’ online?

 

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Is it really possible to find ‘the one’ online?

Finding the perfect partner as a parent can be difficult – it isn’t just you that a potential partner would be taking on. But can you find ‘the one’ online?

As parents, our responsibility is to our children – but that doesn’t mean we should give up on finding love. Many of us are lucky to still be in a relationship with the other parent to our children but sometimes that just isn’t meant to be – and why should we give up on love just because we are a mother or father? The answer is that we shouldn’t! No one should have to give up on the idea of finding love just because they are the primary carer and in charge of another human being.

It can be tough to date as a parent – it isn’t just you that you have to consider at the end of the day – you seemingly come as a package deal and it can be difficult to bring up the topic face to face when meeting someone for the first time. This is where online dating is great. You can create your profile and be completely honest with those who view it so they will know all about you from the offset and are able to decide whether they would like to meet you or not.

We tend to punish ourselves and believe that no one will want us if we aren’t as carefree as possible but this simply isn’t the case. It can be so easy to find potential partners who are interested in you and aren’t at all phased by the fact that you are a parent – perhaps they are even a parent too. People talk about ‘the one’ as if finding him or her is a completely fruitless task but it really isn’t – and with the popularity of online dating now, you have more chance than ever to find someone who is perfect not only for you but also for your situation.

Technology means we are constantly turning to the internet more and more than real life situations – more people are using dating websites to meet people and arrange dates now than that are going out actively hoping to meet someone in their local bar or club. Online is where everyone happens to be and if we are thinking of looking for love, it is definitely where we need to be too.

I would concede and go so far as to say it certainly is possible to find ‘the one’ online – not only have you got the opportunity to be completely honest and truthful from the outset but you also are able to assess their situation too from their profile. It also can be done around your life and your hobbies – you can log on to a dating website from anywhere on your phone and check and reply to messages. Whether you’re sitting on the sofa after your children have gone to bed or standing at the school gates five minutes before they come out of their classrooms, you can log on from anywhere – and who is to say you won’t potentially find the one at this point in time?

Life is so busy now – we all have jobs to work at, families to look after and hobbies to do and looking for love often falls lower down our list of our priorities than the aforementioned things. However, we need to take advantage of the busy times in our lives and use those rare quiet moments to take a moment for ourselves and our needs – if we want to find love, we need to put in the effort ourselves even if we only take a few minutes per day to do so. Then we may hopefully be able to find our perfect partner.

Mandy X

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Internet Dating experiences – Fun Activity Rating 5/10

 

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Internet Dating experiences – Fun Activity Rating 5/10

My internet dating experiences started out well despite being a little naive in my expectations. I imagined that I would find someone suited to me  and skip off into the sunset. I didn’t realise the dynamics that exist, especially among people who have been internet dating for quite some time. The longer you date online, the fussier you get. A mindset of “there might be something better out there” pervades and I became influenced by this thinking. Internet dating experiences become a little like going ‘people shopping’. I know that sounds distasteful but it’s true.

I did meet some wonderful people, some I am still friends with today and I had some amazing experiences that would probably never have come my way without internet dating as the catalyst. I also learned to be more thick skinned and philosophical about the rejections.  People would treat you like the most amazing thing to ever enter their life and just as quickly, they would disappear – never to be heard from again. Some men were married and downplayed the status of their marriage telling me they were separated when in fact things were still chugging along nicely with no intention of separation. Some people were much older than stated on their profile.

I met lawyers, doctors, pilots, CEO’s and some minor celebrities. Many of the men I met told me that on some of the websites there were many prostitutes looking for business.The irony was that the men who hounded me to meet up and sent me video messages, endless emails etc were often the ones that I would eventually agree to meet and then never hear from again. You have to be able to read people well to survive internet dating.

So, apart from some of the amazing experiences I had and the people I met and stayed friends with, I would say that ultimately, I would prefer to meet a man the ‘normal’ way – at work, through friends or whilst out and about. I truly believe that the types of people you meet in day to day life have a different mindset to people who have been internet dating over a long period.

I am not saying I would never try internet dating again but in terms of preserving my emotional well being, it may not be the best way forward.

Mandy X

 

Online Dating

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Online dating /creative commons/ flickr :Don Hankins

 

Online dating has taken off in a huge way. Once seen as the arena for nerdy, socially inept people – it is now used by many people from different backgrounds.Globally, apparently one in five relationships now starts online and the media is constantly reporting on stories of happily married couples who found each other with the click of a mouse.Online dating has become so important to the UK economy that the Office of National Statistics has added online dating to its inventory of goods and services to calculate UK inflation rates.

It’s also interesting to note that the split of male to female members on most of the sites is around the 50:50 mark, and the number of older daters, those from 50 years of age and up has become a real growth market. People want more out of life and older people are more likely to divorce and seek out a more compatible partner than ever before according to statistics.

Slay Chernoff started up an online dating site called “LoveAwake” (www.LoveAwake.com). I asked him why he set up the online dating site and he told me that he always liked the whole idea of online dating. He met his wife online so he practices what he preaches and also said that every time he receives letters from people who found love on his website it makes him feel he is involved in something special. Slay went on to say, “Although we  exist virtually for our members we do real things. Online dating is something that is going to grow and the new era of mobile devices will make it extremely interesting and attractive for people to find love”.

I was curious about how dating sites work these days as I have not tried online dating for a while and went on LoveAwake’s website to see for myself.

First of all – it is free to join which is always a bonus. Setting up a profile is easy and it’s a MUST to add a photo if you want people to notice you. Writing a profile description that is original is important too.  LoveAwake reaches a worldwide audience – a global online dating site. One thing that I liked about the site is the ability to text short messages, send their profile and flirt with other singles.

As written on the website:

“This is a unique new service that allows people to text short messages, send their profile, to flirt with other singles and receive numerous matches via a text message, which helps you connect with singles instantly. The service is the completely anonymous. All customers confirm that they are the owner of the phone and that you are over 18. Your Cell Phone Number is Kept Private. Receiving SMS message is a free service and LoveAwake doesn’t charge you to receive messages from other members.”

You can also send (and receive) gifts which is something I have never come across before:

“Any order for flower or gift delivery or a custom order is passed on to our central processing unit.We have 24-hour customer support which helps provide timely and fast processing and fast reaction to our customers inquiries. After an order has been processed – it is sent to our partners located in the city of delivery. Our partners are flowers shops and major flower stores run by highly professional florists, courier delivery and congratulation services, supermarkets.”

Love Awake offers everything that a standard online dating site would and offers hints and help along the way should you need it. There is also an analytics graph that tells you how many people have contacted you and where they are located geographically. Additions like this make it easier to use the site and consolidate your information at a glance.

So much can be done online these days, it still astounds me. So, if you want to give online dating a try it might be worth having a look at LoveAwake to find someone. Who knows, it might be the best decision you ever make.

If you decide to give online dating a go, please let me in the comments section or email me and I will publish your stories!

Mandy X

LoveAwake: http://www.LoveAwake.com

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Online Relationships

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Online Romance

Long Distance Online Relationships:

Online relationships offer very different dynamics to relationships where couples are physically close to one another.

The danger of online relationships is that it is easier to romanticise a person who is able to constantly present you with their best aspects and hide their annoying habits. It is very easy to manipulate the image you want to show to others when you are online.

A false sense of intimacy is easily created over the internet where the emphasis is on a meeting of minds rather than a physical intimacy, especially initially.

In order to maintain an online relationship, consider the following:

1) Online relationships lack aspects of reality

You are not coping with life together when you are dating online. You get through all the monotony and routine alone and save the focused time for when you are online. It is often the daily grind that affects relationships negatively so it may be possible that you think your relationship is so much better than it really is.

2) Online relationships are easy to romanticize

It is easy to idealise someone that you only talk to online. They can manipulate their image and present themselves in their best light possible

3) Online relationships can signal an issue with commitment

This isn’t always the case but sometimes, people that are drawn to long distance online relationships are frightened of intimacy and find it easier to conduct a relationship via their computer.

4) Online relationships can signify social ineptitude

Another reason to be wary is the possibility that the person you are chatting to is unable to socially interact within their local community and uses the internet as a disguise to cover up this weakness. Some people have social anxiety and find it easier to interact on a ‘normal’ level by using the internet.

5) The online relationship might be a secret relationship

It is fairly common that people engaging in long distance online relationships are doing so to fulfil a need that is not being met in their life. They could be married and feel stuck and bored in the relationship. Going online alleviates the monotony and is easily controlled and kept secret from a suspicious spouse.

People who are gregarious and can interact with others without any anxiety are not usually the types that will pursue long distance online relationships. They are more likely to join an internet dating agency with a view to meeting someone locally. Of course there are always exceptions to the rule but it is important to consider the above points if you are about to embark upon a long distance online relationship or if you are already in an online relationship and have become suspicious of the other person’s motives or honesty.

Long distance relationships can work if the relationship is based more upon friendship than a romantic relationship and tend to fare better in the long run.

Mandy X

Internet Dating – Tips!

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Internet dating

One in five of us finds love online these days. Like everything in life, there are pros and cons to internet dating. I have tried internet dating in the past and have the privilege of hearing many of my client’s stories of their dating escapades.

I decided to put together a list of do’s and dont’s from my own experience and that of my clients.

I have found the most success on Match.com as there seems to be a wide variety of people on there and the site is user friendly. It always pays to meet in a public place for the first few dates and take your time getting to know someone.

There seems to be a different psychology at play when meeting someone from a website as opposed to meeting someone during the natural course of life. A tick-box mentality exists when dating online and we have a much higher criteria for a possible date than we do when meeting people randomly, As a result I think we tend to take longer to find someone from the internet as we often believe that there is a long queue of suitable partners at the touch of a button if this date doesn’t work out. We are less inclined to take people at face value and instead, we focus on whether they fit the bill and out requirements.

DO:

Put up a picture and write an original bio.

Keep your options open initially. The unspoken rules of internet dating is that almost everyone is multi-dating. Once you have seen someone, on average, 3 -4 times, it might be time to talk about leaving the website and focusing on each other.

Maintain a sense of fun, don’t take the process too seriously and see it as a way to meet many new people that you wouldn’t ordinarily cross paths with. I have met some wonderful people that I am still friends with – people I would never normally have come into contact with. This is one great thing about the internet.

Be yourself

Give people the benefit of the doubt. We become hyper critical of others when we meet them for an internet date. We have specified the age, body type and possibly even eye colour of a potential date and this puts us into assessment mode. Try to get out of that frame of mind and see the person for who they are,not what you specified when looking on the website.

 

DON’T:

Don’t use words such as “fun loving” – overused and unoriginal.

Don’t say “I am happy going out or being at home with a bottle of wine”…almost every profile has this in it. It’s okay to say this but put it differently…be original!

Don’t try too hard. Leave it at least a day before contacting your date again. It’s fine to text straight after a date to say you had a lovely time but don’t plan a next date straight away.

 

The above are only guidelines, above all – use your common sense and your intuition. When you meet the right person, you will know. It will feel relaxed and easy.

Mandy X