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How you can make the world a better place

 

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How you can make the world a better place

How you can make the world a better place is simpler than you think. We can all feel like cogs in a large machine – relatively unimportant and powerless. We all matter though and we all make a difference in our own way. We leave our ‘footprint’ on the world even if we are only here for a short while.

Here are the top ways that you can help to make the world a better place:

Be kind

It doesn’t cost anything and it means you are sharing positive energy with others. Spread a little kindness.

Be tolerant

Try not to judge others. Instead, attempt to understand why someone is the way they are or why they do the things they do. When we practise tolerance, it means there is a level of understanding and acceptance that others don’t always behave the way would and that’s okay.

Be charitable

If you have the means, share a little with others. Small gestures matter as much as large ones. Spend time helping those less fortunate, every small gift can make a difference.

Smile

When we smile we feel happier. It puts us in a better mood and it spreads positive energy around the planet. Smile at problems. Smile at enemies. Spread love and good feelings. It will make you happier than holding on to negative feelings. Make a choice.

Believe in goodness

Hold on to the belief that there is good in the world. The more you see the world in this way, the more you will notice positive examples of human behaviour and kindness. Of course there is bad in the world, we can’t deny this but don’t make the leap to believing the whole world is awful and evil. Keep a balanced mind.

Intervene wherever possible

Don’t turn a blind eye to cruelty or injustice. Get involved…make things right wherever you can. Whether that’s reporting an animal abuser or a human abuser. There are enough good people in the world to make a positive difference.Don’t put your head in the sand…

Take responsibility

If we all took responsibility for our own behaviour rather than looking at others, we would improve the world. We can all do our bit to preserve the planet and be good to others. What we put out is our karma.

Mandy X

 

A Championship Is Given To Those Who Gift The Most, Not Those With The Most Gifts

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A Championship Is Given To Those Who Gift The Most, Not Those With The Most Gifts

I recently listened to a podcast by Tony Robbins in which he takes the listeners back to when he was 29 years old. During this time, Tony was on his meteoric rise to becoming the most renowned life coach in history and as a by-product of this he had the opportunity to interview some of the greatest minds on our planet.

In this particular interview he sat down with one of the best coaches in the history of sports. Admittedly, I didn’t know too much about this particular coach. What I did know however, is that a Tony Robbins interview takes the listener on an emotional ride that encompasses all aspects of life. With this knowledge in hand, I prepared myself for the next 2 hours.

Questions

As the interview began I wondered if it would be worthy of my time. I hoped that it would touch on all the things that I deem important: life, love, and happiness. Above that, I remained optimistic that the interview would answer some of my most burning questions.

* What makes a champion?

* What unit of measure determines a champion?

* Is it how many games they win?

* The legacy they leave behind?

* Is a champion even measureable or is it an abstract idea?

I listened intently to the entire interview clinging on to every word as if it was the last words I would ever hear. The two of them discussed success, happiness, love, purpose, and so much more. The way they interacted with one another was similar to the way that a father and son would interact. It was apparent that Tony had a deep seeded respect for the coach and as he talked, the two of us received an education not found in books.

At the conclusion of the interview a flurry of feelings took over my mind and body. I became happy, sad, excited, surprised and humbled by what I had learned.

New success

By the end it was apparent that the reason this coach was so successful in life and his career wasn’t because he was better at the sports he taught or that he had the best players in the world coming to play for him. This coach was so successful because his players respected him on a very deep level. They valued his wisdom, beliefs and most importantly, the way in which he treated them.

If I were to be honest, at first I had a hard time understanding all that I had learned. How could a team become a champion based on wisdom, beliefs, and how they are treated? I was always taught that a team wins because of the physical and mental gifts they are given.

It took me the better part of a week to come to an understanding of how this was so. As I learned, it first begins with how you define your version of winning. For most people, not all but most, it begins and ends with the aforementioned “gifts” and then naturally progresses into the things that they can purchase as a result of the gifts.

The coach believed this to be untrue. I tend to agree.

The success of a person’s is not calculated by the possessions they own. The success of a person is calculated by the amount of people they help and the legacy that they leave.

Formula

Listening to the coach made it very obvious that what a person is capable of or what they do with their lives is a direct result of what they are taught. It is these teachings that create the formula for a championship calibre life.

Don’t be mistaken this formula is not enough by itself. In order for a life to be of championship calibre, the offered teachings must be accepted and implemented by the student. The coach knew and understood this. He affirms this by telling Tony that his own personal success is not measured by the multiple championships he has won but rather by the players who grew up to become difference makers in the world. When asked if someone would go on to be successful after they left his program, he would always respond the same way, “I won’t know for at least 20 years”.

Throughout his life, he carried around seven ideologies that his father passed down to him. These seven things became the foundation that he built his life around.

1. Be true to yourself

2. Make each day your masterpiece

3. Help others

4. Drink deeply from good books

5. Make friendship a fine art

6. Build a shelter against rainy days

7. Pray for guidance, and give thanks for your blessings every day.

I hope after reading each of these seven things you have come to the understanding that each one is no more or less difficult to comprehend, accept, and implement in your life than any of the others. In truth, none of them are an unreasonable standard to live your life by.

Your future

Imagine for a moment your life one, two, or three years into the future. If you implemented just one, what would your life look like? Would it be the exact same as it is now or dramatically different? While I am not a soothsayer, I can venture a guess that it would differ from the way it looks right now.

Now imagine how the lives around you would look? I ask you to do this because it is in this realm of imagination that your life truly has a chance to change. To create profound, lasting change means to affect those around you more than you affect yourself. If it sounds selfless, it’s because it is. Understand that by no means does affecting change in others prevent change in your own life. It is actually the opposite. As you will invariably find out, your personal change will be organically affected as a by-product of the change you affect in others.

It is my hope that in 20 years from now, you are able to look back on the things you are doing right now in you life and attribute your championship to them.

I will leave you with the same way the coach left Tony.

“Not what we give, but what we share, for the gift without the giver is bare.”

James Russell Lowell

This is a guest post by Joel A.Scott. For more info: joelascott

 

 

Compassion and empathy

 

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Compassion and empathy

Compassion and empathy exists but we can always do with more. Compassion and empathy is they key to tolerance and understanding. I get so annoyed when I hear people making judgemental comments such as, “Look at that fat person, why don’t they get off their arse and go to the gym” or “That person was so selfish committing suicide…”

Judgemental comments like that show ignorance and a lack of understanding. If only people could ask one word more often. That word is “WHY?”

When we look for the reasons for a person’s behaviour we may find that we have more compassion and empathy. No one is the way they are purely for no reason. Dysfunctional adults usually have a very valid reason for their issues – be that obesity, alcoholism and/or depression, to name a few. Often, they are victims in some way too and have unfortunately found unhelpful ways to cope – such as overeating or gambling or doing drugs. Yes, they are responsible for their own behaviour, but if we are able to practise the human ability of empathy and put ourselves in the shoes of others, we may be less inclined to judge.

So the next time you find yourself judging someone else, try to look a little deeper into why they may be doing whatever it is they are doing. You might be amazed at just how tolerant and compassionate you really are.

Mandy X

There’s no need to be mean

 

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There’s no need to be mean

There seems to be a general consensus on the idea that being mean gets you ahead in life. There is a famous quote, “Nice guys finish last”. I don’t believe this though. Being assertive is the best way to be – stand up for yourself and try to reach a win-win situations with others. This doesn’t necessarily mean you have to be a nasty person. Asking for what you want but considering other people’s needs is a great way to move forward in life and still like yourself in the process.

People who are mean may temporarily get ahead in life but the long term effects can be surprising. Negative emotions are suppressed and this sometimes lead to depression and anxiety later in life. I like the idea of karma – if you’re mean to others, that negative energy will be returned to you in some form or another.

So deliver kindness to others, treat others as you would like to be treated. As tempting as it is to return nastiness when it is received, I try my best not to return it as it leads me to operate at the same simplistic and barbaric level as those mean ‘low lifes’.

Spend time with people you love, trust and respect and limit time with the toxic people but never stoop to their level. They are not worth your energy.

Mandy X