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12 characteristics of self motivated people


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12 characteristics of self motivated people

What gets a person up in the morning, raring to go and eager to get stuck in with their goals and tasks? We are motivated by different things and the key to being motivated is to find your individual ‘hooks’ that propel you forward. Money isn’t a huge motivator for me – I see it as a means to an end. What I really want and what motivates me is the freedom to make choices and have options. There are certain characteristics that self motivated people share however. Cultivate these 12 characteristics of  motivated people and you might just find that reaching your goals becomes that little bit easier…

1) Visionary thinking and purpose. Self motivated people are able to see the bigger picture easily.

2) Optimism abounds and self motivated people participate fully in life.

3) They possess  good self esteem with an attitude of success. They expect to win but can cope with failure as they see it as a learning curve.

4) There is a thirst for challenge and willingness to take risks.

5) Self motivated people are committed to life long learning – there is always more to know and understand.

6) They have endless energy – not just physical but mental and emotional energy as well.

7) Persistent and determined. They don’t give up at the first sign of trouble.

8) Strive for balance in work/play and within themselves – health wise and with their emotions and spirituality.

9) Self motivated people are able to rise above adversity – don’t sweat the small stuff.

10) They engage in searching self reflection. Possess self awareness of their strengths and weaknesses.

11) Sincere self forgiveness. Self motivators are humble and willing to admit when they are wrong.

12) Revelling in success. Self motivators give themselves credit for a job well done.


Mandy X

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mental inertia

Overcome Mental Inertia

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How do we overcome mental inertia? People by nature are fearful of loss, whether that is financial, emotional or related to status or power. We are obsessed with accumulating safety, security and certainty. What we often ignore though is the fact that life is inherently uncertain. There are no guarantees or real security no matter how hard we try to play it safe. Too many fearful thoughts can lead us to mental inertia, where we feel safer in our well known comfort zone. The problem with our comfort zone is that it doesn’t stretch us in any way. I believe we all owe it to ourselves to find out our strengths and weaknesses and to figure out what we are truly capable of. This cannot happen if we consistently remain in our comfort zone. A little bit of discomfort creates a large amount of personal development.

Ways to overcome “Mental Inertia”:

  1. Visualise the positive results of your action and how good you will feel about yourself.
  2. Take action. If you start move physically, the brain will follow comply.
  3. Take small steps to begin with and count every small step as a victory and proof that you have it within you to make changes.
  4. Take a balanced approach. It doesn’t have to be all or nothing. There will be times when you feel less motivated and that’s okay.
  5. Be optimistic about your capabilities.
  6. Adjust your concept of failure. See failure as never trying at all rather than trying and it not working out. There is a valuable lesson in every attempt that doesn’t quite work out.
  7. Self belief is key. Talk to yourself in a motivational way – “I can do it”.


Set yourself deadlines, don;t get caught up in the tiniest of details and get stuck in. I remember in one of my past jobs, there was this sales guy with the letters GOYA scrawled boldly above his desk. He told me they stood for:


Get Off Your Ass

Now that’s good advice – plain and simple. No excuses….   🙂

Mandy X

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Stop Doing, Start Being

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I have come across many people in life who measure their self worth by how busy they are and by how much they have achieved. There seems to be an explicit link between tasks, action and personal value. If we are not doing something (even if the results are inane and non-productive) then we feel we are not a productive member of society and we are therefore redundant…worthless.

The danger with this type of thinking is that we end up running around like headless chickens, endlessly ‘doing’ in the hopes that we will finally be given that sought after badge of worthiness. Somehow, we imagine that our blood, sweat and tears will allow us to finally feel “good enough”. I know that I find it hard to be still and focus on one thing at a time. Even watching a movie can be a challenge and I find it very hard to resist googling things on my laptop whilst watching TV. What’s that all about?

What is SO bad about being rather than doing? Too much action leads to less monitoring of the effectiveness of what we are doing and we can get caught up in a frenzy of directionless activity, while hoping on an unconscious level that all this  manic activity means we are doing good, getting ahead in life. What a huge misconception!

One of my aims is to learn more about meditation. About being mindful. In this fast paced world it has become even more essential to be able to detach and centre ourselves. Taking regular checks of whether we are still on track and feeling we are going in the right direction is vital. I meet many clients who have worked so hard for many years without coming up to breathe. Years down the line they are exhausted, older and so far off track that they feel empty and unfulfilled.

What to do:

  1. Take time out – away from TV, media, computers and phones and assess your current life position.
  2. Ask yourself whether you are happy with what you are doing? Do you enjoy at least 80% of what you engage in daily?
  3. Make time for pleasurable activities. Pleasure is the key, not task-orientated achievement. If you achieve whilst gaining pleasure that’s brilliant but it shouldn’t be the main focus.
  4. Engage in real life – meet with friends, play with your children and engage with animals and nature.
  5. Spend time alone. If you feel unease at quiet time alone, ask yourself why. Time alone is essential for regeneration.
  6. Give back to society – donations, volunteering…whatever you can. This adds a sense of purpose to life and extends your impact in the world.
  7. Understand that it is okay, even essential, to stop doing, start being. Challenge your resistance to quietude.
  8. Meditate to centre yourself and tune in to your essential self – where your real peace and happiness lie.

Many people are busy achieving nothing. Stop doing, start being by seeing your inherent worth. Disconnect the unhealthy link between self worth and being busy. Too many people work themselves to a standstill, affecting their health in the process. They scurry around promising themselves that their crazy, hectic lives are temporary and that once they have the money in the bank, the status at work or the retirement package they will be happy and will begin to take it easy. I get to see the reality. These people wish their lives away, have a poor quality of life yet fool themselves on a daily basis.

Step back, take regular ‘health’ checks on your life and reject the idea that being busy will bring value and happiness. It doesn’t.

Mandy X