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Learn to let it go

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Learn to let it go

 

Life is a conundrum…even if you live by clear rules and try to do the right thing, that does not guarantee that anyone else will. During our lives we will all come across people who do not practise what they preach, who are dishonest, those that enjoy watching others fail and the general “down and dirty” types.
So, now that we have established that no matter who you are, you cannot escape encountering the ‘mean and nasties’ out there, let’s consider ways to lessen their impact:

1) One nugget of comfort is to remember that those people who project nastiness and anger onto others are usually very unhappy, miserable people in themselves. When they project negative emotions on to you, they are giving you a taster of what they feel inside. Draw some comfort from the fact that these people suffer with those feelings constantly – unless or until they learnt to manage their emotions more effectively and not take it out on others. Happy, content people do not feel the need to project negativity and misery onto others.
2) Try to limit your time with bitter, twisted people. Be sure to train yourself to identify those people in your life that drain you and manage your time with them well. Some people (I call them “emotional vampires”) will drain you rapidly, limit time with them.
3) Seek out those that boost your positive energy levels, inspire you and bring out the best in you! Fill up your positive reservoirs, this gives you the energy to tackle life.
4) Gratitude – tune into what IS good in your life. It can be so easy to get bogged down by what isn’t working but this thinking is not at all helpful. Instead focus on all the things are working for you, however small.
5) Don’t allow those that have upset you to continue to have ‘power’ over you by continuing to let them stay in your thoughts and upset you, long after the event. Distract yourself, go do something but above all – remember that whilst they are in your thoughts, upsetting you…the real person is off doing something else, in all likelihood not at all bothered by you. Don’t let them WIN. Don’t think about them..emotions lessen over time.
6) Focus on what you can control.. empower yourself and watch your thinking. Try not to put yourself down or allow your inner insecurities or fears to get the better of you. take action, minimise the worry – they are just THOUGHTS, not FACT
LET IT GO…..

Mandy X

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Move on

Move On and Embrace Change

 

Move on

Move on

Move On

There are times in life when we need to accept that what has gone before is now a closed chapter and that we need to move on and embrace our new life. What is it that you need to move on from? Whether it is a job, romantic relationship, a home, a friend, a place, a habit, an addiction or a routine – are you staying attached to it when you need to move on?

Perhaps it is time for something new…now.

Is it fear that keeps us attached to the past, to something or someone? Often we stay attached to a situation that no longer works for us, damages us psychologically or lowers our self esteem. We can become afraid of loss, change, of never finding anything better to fill the gap left in our lives, or criticism from others who don’t want us to move on for whatever reason.

Dealing with fear is key to moving on successfully. What do you imagine might happen if you moved on? It is far worse to stay attached to something through fear than to face the consequences of letting it go. To move on you have to be willing to take a leap of faith and trust your own judgement, especially if others are discouraging you. They may not know the full picture – they don’t live your life for you. You have the power to make decisions about your life and to move on when you choose to do so.

We often refuse to move on until the pain if the current situation becomes unbearable. When the discomfort grows larger than our fear we feel compelled to do something. If this is the place you have reached, know that the time is right to free yourself to make whatever changes and choices you need in your life. Although you may feel some sadness for what you have left behind, you will also feel enormous relief, optimism and a sense of freedom and empowerment.

Moving on is natural and appropriate at many stages in life. Life isn’t a dress rehearsal and each day that presents itself is a new opportunity to go out and get what you want. To make small changes that lead you to a path of happiness and fulfilment. You have the resources within you to move on and achieve your goals. Trust yourself and believe in yourself. Trust that you do know when it is time to move on and that you can do it successfully. You can!

Mandy X

 

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