10 Ways to feel free

10 Ways to feel free



10 Ways to feel free

1.Stop caring about what others think

You automatically place yourself in virtual shackles when you worry about what others think of you. Ask yourself why it is so important to you. Often it is because we want to be liked but if you have to be someone other than who you really are in order to be liked, it’s a wasted effort.  They like a version of the real you, not the real you. Those that still stick around irrespective of what you do are the ones you really want to focus on and keep around – not the judgemental ones.

The other thing to think about is that people are often more accepting of our true selves than we realise but due to our fear of being rejected, we never really test out the thought “If I am myself people won’t like me”. Get used to testing out your beliefs by doing ‘experiements’ in real life. I have found people are far more accepting and open minded than we give them credit for.

2. Stop watching the news for a while

The news is usually about things in the world that are negative and can lead us to feeling sad and powerlessness. Give it a break now and then.

3. Worry less

When you find you are worrying without looking for a solution and the worry is non productive, distract yourself. Don’t spend too much time in your head if you are just reviewing the same things repetitively. Problem solving is fine but worrying gets you nowhere but an exhaust you mentally and emotionally.

4. Spend time in nature/or with animals/ exercise etc

We all need time to reset and focus on what’s important. Being busy can sidetrack us from the really important stuff Make sure you take time for a change of scenery to lighten the load and see life from a fresh perspective.

5. Be playful

Never take life too seriously. Let the child within you loose once in a while and ignore the etiquette forced upon all of us. It’s okat to be quirky and unique. We all need fun and laughter as it releases the feel-good hormone – Oxytocin. We all need a good dose of oxytocin!

6. Maintain a sense of humour

Life can seem a lot less serious and upsetting when we see humour in a situation. Try find a way to laugh at yourself and see the absurdity of the world we live in.

7. Love and accept yourself

Living in a body you don’t like will not set you free so it makes sense to find a way to begin working with what you have been given. Accept yourself instead of fighting against yourself. Wasted energy!

8. Be true to yourself

We can feel the most free when we follow what feels right for us. Let go of expectations of others and learn to honour yourself and your goals.

9.See the bigger picture

Context plays a large part in how intensely we view a situation. Remind yourself that time heals and lessens stress and strain. When you consider the bigger picture, this different perspective can help you to feel less bogged down by the nitty-gritty of life.

10. Have fun

Learn to make the most of the life you have.

Let go of cynicism and work on filling your mind with more neutral thinking. Keep an open mind and be less judgemental. The more psychologically flexible you are, the freer uou’ll feel!

Mandy X