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4 Signs That You Can’t Trust Your Partner

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Trust is integral to a healthy and successful relationship. If you can’t trust your partner, then it should make you question whether the relationship is worth continuing or fighting for. Here are some key signs that you need to be aware of. 

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Past History 


First, it’s possible that your partner has a history of being untruthful or untrustworthy. While this doesn’t need to be a black mark on their record forever, it does mean that they are more likely to make the same mistakes a second time. This is particularly true if they have shown that you, specifically, should not trust their actions. You may have caught them flirting before or you may have even had trouble with them being unfaithful. In cases like this, there are various steps that you can explore. For instance, you might want to think about speaking to a couple’s therapist. There will always be a root cause of infidelity that you may be able to address. You could also think about speaking to a divorce lawyer if you feel as though the relationship is damaged beyond any chance of repair. 


Friends You’ve Never Met 


It’s possible that your partner has friends that you have never met. There could be multiple reasons for this. They might live far away or they might be work friends. However, if you are never allowed to meet these people, even when an opportunity presents itself, then it’s possible that your partner is hiding something. People often choose how they act based on who they are around. If they don’t want you to meet a certain group of friends, then it’s possible they know you won’t like the version that they are when they are around that group. 


Going Places Without Telling You


You might also find that your partner goes places without telling you. This could be after they finish work or through the day. While this isn’t always a sign that they are being untruthful or unfaithful, it’s a red flag that you do need to watch out for and be mindful of. Particularly, if when questioned, they are not forthcoming about where they have been or what they have been doing. This doesn’t mean that you should start following them but you should remain sceptical.

They Don’t Trust You 

Finally, one of the clearest signs that you can’t trust your partner would be if they act as if they can’t trust you. People who are untrustworthy will commonly project their insecurities onto other people. So, they might question whether you are being truthful or demand that you are more open about your actions. If you fail to do this, then they might become more angry or irritable. The best way to deal with this is to show your partner that you are being honest and faithful. If they look guilty or forlorn there’s a good chance they are hiding something themselves. 

We hope this helps you understand some of the clear signs that you might not be able to trust your partner and the steps that you need to take.

Mandy Kloppers
Author: Mandy Kloppers

Mandy is a qualified therapist who treats depression, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, trauma, and many other types of mental health issues. She provides online therapy around the world for those needing support and also provides relationship counselling.