Confident people see the world differently from insecure individuals. They are less hyper-vigilant or worried about something going wrong and more often than not, enjoy secure attachments with others. Practising confidence makes all the difference in how successful your relationships will be as no one enjoys a needy or clingy partner.
Below are ways that confident people manage their relationships:
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They assume all is fine in the relationship unless told otherwise
Instead of focusing on what might be wrong and allowing insecurities to get the better of them, confident people assume that everything is going well in their relationship unless told otherwise. They expect that their partner will love them and care for them because they value themselves and see their strengths and value to others. Confident people don’t attach their worth to how others treat them. They know their own worth and as such have healthy boundaries in relationships.
2. They ask for what they want
Confident people have no trouble asking for what they want in a relationship. They will never assume the other person is a mind reader. They will be clear and ask that their needs are met. They are good communicators and aren’t afraid to talk about touchy subjects. Communication is the key to a happy relationship as it allows issues to be dealt with without an emotional ‘backlog’ of resentment building up.
3. They take responsibility for their part in the relationship
Confident people in relationships understand that they are mutually responsible for the success of the relationship and don’t put all of the responsibility onto their partners. They put their fair share of love, affection, and energy into making the relationship work and don’t shy away when the going gets tough. They easily see the bigger picture when their relationship hits a rocky patch.
4. They see rejection as incompatibility rather than as something wrong with them
When they are rejected they don’t spend time agonising over what they did wrong or whether they aren’t good enough. They are philosophical and understand that there are times when two people need to go their separate ways due to incompatibility. Everyone faces rejection at some point in life, no matter who they are. Accept is as a part of life and believe that there is someone who will be happy with you just the way you are.
5. They maintain their identity
Confident people stay true to their basic character and don’t stop doing things they love for the sake of a relationship. They understand that it is healthy to have your own interests and to have time apart as it creates more interest in the relationship. Insecure people try too hard to please whereas confident people know they need to be themselves. It’s exhausting and unsustainable to pretend to be someone you’re not.
Enjoy the relationship and accept it for what it is. Communicate regularly and never try to change your partner’s fundamental characteristics. A good relationship can be a wonderful source of love and support and we can all do with an ally or two in this world!
Mandy X
Author: Mandy Kloppers
Mandy is a qualified therapist who treats depression, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, trauma, and many other types of mental health issues. She provides online therapy around the world for those needing support and also provides relationship counselling.
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