Life isn’t something that you become an expert in overnight. If often takes a number of falls, lessons learned the hard way, and guidance to get on the right track. With that being said, it can be easy for life to quickly spiral out of control. However, it’s important that you’re able to navigate the many twists and turns or it could have negative impacts on your health. If your life feels like it’s out of control, you should know that it isn’t too late to put things back into place. Here are 6 ways that you can regain control of your life that may work for you.
Accept Your Flaws
To begin with, if you want to regain control of your life, you should start by loving and accepting yourself for who you are. No matter what mistakes you’ve made along the way, know that as long as you’re alive, there’s an opportunity to rectify your mistakes and make things better. In light of this, avoid beating yourself up and forgive yourself for your wrongdoings. Accepting your shortcomings might mean that you have to learn to accept the truth about your situation, failures and all.
Take Control of Your Finances
For many people, finances that have spiraled out of control is a source of stress in their lives and can make them feel as though they’ve lost control. However, no matter how bad things have gotten financially, there’s always a way to fix it, even if it will take a while. If you’re in debt, see if you can get a professional to help you manage it and also, teach yourself better financial habits. Work on rebuilding your credit by borrowing responsibly and living within your means. If you’ve filed for bankruptcy before, on this page you’ll find out how you can remove it from your credit report to improve your overall rating.
Create Boundaries
In this day and age where everything seems to intersect because of the emergence of the internet, boundaries can seem like a difficult thing to create. Nevertheless, if you want to regain control of your life, boundaries are essential. Ensure that you’re looking after yourself first and living a life that you want to live. Remember that it isn’t possible to be everything to everyone as that’s a quick way to burn yourself out.
To create boundaries, work on building your self-esteem first as not having boundaries could stem from low self-esteem and the fear of not being liked. Decide what your core values are and use that as a guide to help you set personal boundaries. Also, get good at learning to say no and not feeling guilty for doing so. You don’t have to overexplain or be coerced into doing things you don’t want to.
Live Out Loud
A sign that you have control over your life is when you live life in color and on your own terms. No matter how many times life has knocked you down, resolve to not let that stop you from dreaming and living with purpose. It has even been said that when you find your purpose, you have a better chance of living longer. Having said that, live a life that you’ll be proud of and not one that you think others want you to live. It’s also imperative that you don’t let your mistakes or tragedies define you and influence how you live.
Get Organized
Disorganization is another thing that can hold you back and make you feel as though you don’t have control of your life. There are so many methods you can implement to make sure you get your life in order whether it be getting used to to-do-lists to using apps to help keep you on track. If you’re ready to put in the work, there are practical solutions out there. For starters, to get organized, come up with a primary objective which could be to rid yourself of the stress that not being organized causes for you.
Pursue Your Dreams
As mentioned above, purpose can make you feel in control of your life. For this reason, you should pursue your dreams and not let anything hold you back. By doing so, you aren’t leaving your future to chance or luck, but instead, you’re steering the wheel. If you’re too afraid to pursue your dreams, trust your gut feeling and believe in yourself. Know that the worst that could happen is that you fail and that’s sometimes the starting point for success.
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Author: Mandy Kloppers
Mandy is a qualified therapist who treats depression, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, trauma, and many other types of mental health issues. She provides online therapy around the world for those needing support and also provides relationship counselling.
