Remembering a loved one for whatever reason can be challenging and sometimes very painful but it’s important to feel these feelings and express our true emotions in order to move forward and stay happy. Most people tend to dwell on the negative impact that losing someone has rather than remember them in a positive light, so here are 7 tips on remembering them in a positive way which may help you connect, move on, or express your feelings.
– Keep in touch with the memories
Keeping memories fresh in your mind can be difficult, especially if they are from deep within your past, therefore remembering these special times is super important in keeping in touch with your loved one. One method for keeping in touch with memories is to go back to the places where these memories were made and relive the experiences. If it was a romantic day at the park or a long drive, get back to that park or back in the car and relive that experience – it will make you feel more connected to that time and help you process those feelings, whether they be good, or bad.
– Talk with mutual friends and family about the loved one
Talking and being open is such an important part of remembering a loved one, especially if you share mutual friends or family members as discussing the loved one can open you up to new ideas and feelings that you might have not thought of before. You know the saying, two heads are better than one and that is the same for being open about your emotions.
– Invest in some special memorabilia
There are loads of businesses out there that offer personalised memorabilia to connect you with your loved one – these come in a huge range of designs, from ashes jewellery to handwriting engravings, you will be able to find a special physical object perfect to remember your loved one.
One business called Inscripture are known for their personalised handwriting engravings, they can re-create exact handwriting, and are even able to create a new message using said handwriting. They have been named the UK’s Leading Handwriting Specialists because each Handwriting item they create is unique and extremely sentimental to its owner, it tells a story.
– Look over photos and videos
In 2021, everyone has access to a smartphone, meaning we have an array of memories at the touch of our fingertips available all day, every day. Even though at times viewing these memories can be painful – it’s important to remember these and understand that you will be able to cherish them forever and no one else has that privilege. This method is extremely helpful when looking back at a past negative relationship and pulling the positives from it regardless of what happened, real growth!
– Focus on the positives
Following on from the point before, focusing on the happy memories and good characteristics of the loved one can make remembering them a happy yet emotional experience. Getting closure may not always be on the cards, but you can create closure for yourself by feeling grateful for what you have been through or for the relationship you once had. Every single human being has the opportunity to grow from our relationships, depending on how we manipulate our mindsets.
– Write a letter
Write a letter, send it or don’t! This method is one of the most popular and allows you to express any emotions you may still be clinging onto
– Celebrate them!
Celebrating a loved one is so important and can be done in so many ways, based on your preference – whether it is throwing them a party or celebrating by watching their favourite film, this is such a great way to show gratitude and care towards them.
Author: Mandy Kloppers
Mandy is a qualified therapist who treats depression, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, trauma, and many other types of mental health issues. She provides online therapy around the world for those needing support and also provides relationship counselling.
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