8 ways to be content

1.Let it go

Don’t bear grudges. That allows those whom you hold a grudge against to have power over you. Learn to let it go. Life is too short to hold on to negative energy that is unnecessary. Yes, there is injustice in the world but sometimes acceptance is the key to freedom. It doesn’t mean you have to like it but it means that you can hold on to a peaceful mind instead of letting the injustice of the world ‘pickle’ you and change you into a bitter, twisted person.

2. Be flexible and open minded

Those who hold rigid rules about the world will find that their ‘rules’ are broken very often thereby creating tension and unhappiness. Research has shown that those who are psychological flexible are the happiest people. Learn to be adaptable and get into the habit of looking for rational alternatives to explain life and why people do what they do. Perhaps what is happening to you is nothing personal…

3.Be yourself

Like and accept yourself for who you are. It feels amazing when you can be brave enough to let the real you shine through. We all fear rejection if we act ourselves but most people are willing to accept us far more than we think they will.

4. Laugh often

Never take life too seriously. A sense of humour can carry you through all sorts of life challenges. Life is tough . No one escapes life’s lessons but when you try to see the bigger picture and learn from it, it makes a massive difference. Being light hearted and learning to detach on some levels can mean maintaining your sanity for that bit longer.

5. Dismiss negative or self critical thinking

Negative self talk will make anyone feel miserable. Why do it? Be kind to yourself, be your own best friend. You owe it to yourself to believe in yourself.

6. Don’t compare

Comparing your life to that of others in a negative light is the quickest shortcut to misery. Stop it! Be proud of where you are in your life – we are all different with varied things to learn. We all have an original path to take and what others are doing should have no bearing on what we do in our own lives.

7. Connect with others

Happiness definitely comes from being around others and feeling connected. In fact this is probably the most important way to feel happy and content. Make an effort. Never underestimate the power of connection with others.

8. Don’t sweat the small stuff

Learn to pick your battles. Life is complicated and not every injustice deserves your attention. Have goals and keep perspective. Stat grounded and don’t be distracted by menial things.

There are many routes to feeling content and happy, the above points are only a few ways to help you find contentment. We are all different and find solace in varied ways. Only many levels though we are all similar, we want to be loved and accepted. Love and accept yourself – others may not always see how amazing and wonderful you are. Nurture self belief – it really does help you to manifest the right kind of reality (law of attraction).

Mandy X

Author: Mandy Kloppers

Mandy is a qualified therapist who treats depression, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, trauma, and many other types of mental health issues. She provides online therapy around the world for those needing support and also provides relationship counselling.