Sometimes we forget to put in place healthy boundaries and ignore our assertive rights (that we are all entitled to). Being unassertive can lead to resentment and frustration towards others. Every now and then I reread this bill of rights to put me back in a healthy place… Here is a list of assertive rights that you can own and put in place:
It is reasonable and proper for me….
- To be treated with respect
- To hold my own views and have them heard
- To have my own feelings and have them taken seriously
- To arrange my own priorities
- To make mistakes
- To change my mind
- To choose not to answer questions that are personal or intrusive
- To choose when and if to assert myself
- To define and protect the physical space I need
- To refuse without feeling guilty
- To get what I pay for
- To ask for what I want
- To be given information (by doctors, lawyers, accountants etc) without being patronized
- Any right I claim as my own, I extend to others Eg. I have the right to have my needs met and so do you
When you show others that you have healthy self-respect and that you won’t accept unfair or unreasonable behaviour from others, you will notice a change in how others treat you. It’s true that we teach people how to treat us. If we are passive and allow bad behaviour, we will essentially be giving the ‘green light for it to continue. Kow your worth, know what you won’t accept and stick to it.
Mandy X
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Author: Mandy Kloppers
Mandy is a qualified therapist who treats depression, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, trauma, and many other types of mental health issues. She provides online therapy around the world for those needing support and also provides relationship counselling.
