A Fallen Hero
It’s so sad when someone you really admired shows a side that really surprises you…and not in a good way. I have always liked Steve Pavlina and decided to find out more about connecting with him. He writes a well known blog of the same name and I really enjoyed most of what he had to say.
One way to increase traffic and awareness of a blog is to have links with other blogs – especially successful ones. So I decided to look at Steve Pavlina’s website this morning with a view to making contact.
He has very clear rules about what he will and won’t allow (fair enough as I am sure he is very busy) but it comes across in the meanest, most arrogant way possible.
Here’s an example:
“Meeting in person – I love meeting new people, both when I’m home in Las Vegas and while traveling, but I must warn you that I’m pretty selective when it comes to one-on-one meet-ups. If you’d like to meet in person, please read my Meeting in Person page first. If you’re convinced that you satisfy the criteria (most people won’t), then please feel free to ask me about meeting in person, and we’ll arrange a good time and place to meet.”
Click on the “meeting in person” page (I have included the link – have a look for yourself) is even more amusing where he goes on to talk about the types of people he will consider meeting and how he enjoys “open” relationships with good looking people.
Here’s a bit more from Steve:
“Mentally I require total honesty in my connections with women. Don’t even think about playing manipulative games with me. I prefer direct and straightforward truth. If you want to know where you stand with me, ask me and I’ll tell you. If I like you, I’ll tell you. If I feel something isn’t quite working between us, I’ll point it out and discuss it with you. If you can’t talk straight with me, don’t talk to me at all.”
Okay – let’s be fair. He has every right to choose who he sees and why he sees them but the way he is going about it is putting up a huge invisible barrier between him and genuinely cool, interesting people who just won’t stand for arrogance and a “what’s in it for me?” approach. I like how he states that he doesn’t care who you are and whether you’re wealthy or not and that it is all about connecting. That bit’s good but then he ruins it all by saying stuff like:
“If you feel no special attraction to my spirit, if I seem interchangeable with any other guy out there, or if this part just sounds weird to you, then we’re not compatible in this dimension. But if you got goosebumps instead, I want you in my life.”
Jeeez, all I wanted was a quick chat!! So, as long as he feels important, you’ll be fine?! Give me a break. I have never written openly about someone like this but I just couldn’t keep quiet this time round.
This world is made up of all sorts of people and often, it is the most unlikely people that I feel I will have no connection with whatsoever that manage to shift my perspectives and attitudes about the world the most. I hope I will always remain open minded to meeting the people that come into my life, whether voluntarily or involuntarily.
As a last note – I am not saying anyone is right or wrong here – just that there’s a major difference of opinion. I want to embrace what life sends my way and learn from it rather than filtering out my social interactions according to imagined pre-requisites. I guess we really aren’t “compatible in this dimension”.
You just might be missing out Steve!
Resources: Â http://www.stevepavlina.com/meeting-in-person.htm