Each and every time you approach life without fear, you build up and enhance your psychological armour. The conquering of fear produces a feeling of exhilaration and that is why it is important to face fear and not let it get the better of you.
When we allow fear to rule (and this is an easy thing to give in to), we give in to the fear and don’t reality-test what might actually happen. We may never try for that job or ask a person out due to fear. The problem with this strategy is that you don’t get to test your strength and just how resilient and strong you might be. To approach life without fear takes guts.
Make an effort to push through your fear barrier regularly. Start with small steps but keep trying. Ask yourself what’s the worst that could happen. Even if it doesn’t turn out as you wanted, you still learn that you can cope and that life goes on.
Success and failure improve confidence! Avoiding because of fear diminishes confidence!
Ensure that you have a positive attitude to failure. If I try and fail I am still pleased with myself for trying. To me failure is not trying at all. I would rather try and fail miserably (I see it as an ‘life experiment’) than never try at all. Stop being afraid of being afraid. Anticipation is far worse than being in the thick of the experience.
Get out there and test yourself. Be brave and you will be amazed at how these experiences ‘snowball’ into a braver, stronger you.
Mandy X
Author: Mandy Kloppers
Mandy is a qualified therapist who treats depression, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, trauma, and many other types of mental health issues. She provides online therapy around the world for those needing support and also provides relationship counselling.
