Books I Love

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Plays Well With Others

Discover the Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Relationships Is (Mostly) Wrong

When trying to improve a marriage, we usually think too much about fixing problems. Yeah, it can help but believing that merely reducing the negatives in a marriage will make it great is a myth at the level of “Santa Claus is watching you” or “I’ll use calculus in real life.”

We all know couples who have plenty of problems yet manage to make it work. How? Because a happy marriage isn’t threatened by the raw amount of bad stuff. It’s about the ratio of good-to-bad…

From Plays Well With Others:

What keeps romantic relationships happy? John Gottman found it was a 5:1 ratio of positive events to negative events. As long as you have enough good times to offset the bad, a relationship can thrive.

You cannot nerf your marriage against all the bad stuff. Even reducing the negatives to zero doesn’t necessarily lead to bliss and joy – it could just end up neutral. So don’t just fix problems; increase the positives. Research shows this is often more important than reducing the negatives.

Do exciting stuff together. People think they went on cool dates early in their relationship because they were in love – but research shows the reverse is true as well: you fell in love because you did fun stuff together. Go to concerts. Spend more time on roller coasters. Dance like you’re trying to turn your automatic ceiling lights back on. This is what keeps love alive.

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Side Hustle Bible

Want to find ways to make on the side? If you do – read this book!

Getting Rich in the Gig Economy…
Posting for Fun & Profit…
A Bootstrapper’s Bible to Social Media Millions

  • Little tricks to master the most profitable freelance professional opportunities in the shortest time possible
  • Why the real meaning of “side hustle” will change the way you look at your career and life goals forever
  • How even “beginners” are using their life experience to capitalize on “hidden in plain sight” opportunities to build platforms around their passions
  • Get inspired and find ideas to live the life you want — make the leap from full-time employee to well-paid worker who is in control of your own vision of success
  • How to sell a high-priced skill or product with a gigantic markup (and which ones are hot NOW and will continue to be in demand for decades to come)
  • How to spot the “economic and astrology” lies that keep you stuck and how to eliminate your business worries
  • Profitable “paint by numbers” business models you could start today

Many employees tolerate working jobs they hate. They tough it out. They grin and bear it.

And most who start businesses have to accumulate all kinds of debt and keep putting money into their business instead of taking it out.

They go into business only to find out they’ve jumped out of the frying pan into the fire. They wind up slaves to their business. Their business owns them… controlling their lives and dictating their happiness… they don’t own the business.

The worst part is when they wind up working longer, harder hours for the same money they were making in their jobs. Trapped and hating their lives.

This is a fantastic book, full of tips and advice to increase your earning power:

To purchase the Side Hustle Bible: CLICK HERE


Building children’s resilience in the face of parental mental illness

Conversation With Children ,parents and professionals

If you grew up with a parent who suffered from mental illness, this is the book for you. A key focus of this book is the relationships between children, parents and professionals. The book covers the personal stories of individuals who had to cope with parental mental illness and the impact this has had on them. Children are often forgotten and their mental health is undoubtedly influenced by a parent who has a mental illness. It’s a book that is close to my heart as I grew up with a mother who had a mental illness and vulnerable children are often affected for the rest of their lives by their parent’s mental illness. This book refers to an amazing organisation called Ourtime that supports children and helps them to achieve their potential despite their early challenging environments. Every contributor has an affiliation with Kidstime and their stories are inspiring and uplifting.

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Lifeshocks: And how to love them

This is a brilliant book with an inspiring message. It helps to explain how we can overcome difficulties in life. Sophie Sabbage explains a very personal story and elucidates the difference between three kinds of lifeshocks we all receive: limiting lifeshocks which challenge our arrogance and appetite for control; exposing lifeshocks which challenge our affectations and pretences; and evoking lifeshocks which challenge our closed-heartedness.

A great read!

To purchase Lifeshocks: CLICK HERE


Don’t Worry Be Happy

A Child’s Guide to Overcoming Anexiety

Does your child appear to worry a lot?

Perhaps they have frequent tummy upsets, or are irritable, tearful, angry or withdrawn?

Do they have problems concentrating or show a loss of enthusiasm for their usual interests?

These could all be signs that your child is struggling with anxiety.

This practical guide combines proven cognitive-behavioural therapy methods used by child psychologists in schools with simple activities to help your child to overcome anxiety. It’s aimed at children aged 7–11 because a lot happens in these years that can impact a child’s emotional well-being, not just now but for years to come.

Your child will be guided, with the help of Fiz – a friendly and supportive character they can identify with – through fun and engaging activities which are interspersed with useful tips, inspirational statements and practical information for parents.


You’re a Star

A Child’s Guide to Self-Esteem

Does your child often feel isolated and do they struggle to get involved in social situations?

Are they nervous about what people think of them, or maybe they’re just a little unsure of how they feel about themselves?

These could be signs that your child is experiencing low self-esteem.

This practical guide combines proven cognitive-behavioural therapy methods used by child psychologists in schools with simple activities to help your child grow their self-esteem. It’s aimed at children aged 7–11 because a lot happens in these years that can impact a child’s sense of self-worth, not just now but for years to come.

Your child will be guided, with the help of Bop – a friendly and supportive character they can identify with – through fun and engaging activities which are interspersed with useful tips, inspirational statements and practical information for parents.



Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind

One hundred thousand years ago, at least six different species of humans inhabited Earth. Yet today there is only one—homo sapiens. What happened to the others? And what may happen to us?

I absolutely loved this book. Fascinating information and hugely educational.

******I highly recommend this book. It puts a different spin on society and takes a bigger-picture look at life on planet Earth ******

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Malcolm Gladwell David & Golinath

Underdogs,Misfits and the Art Of Battling Giants

I thoroughly enjoyed this book. It is inspirational in that it shows examples of the underdog taking on someone stronger – it is possible. I also love the real life stories, research and statistics. Hugely intriguing and so interesting that I finished it within days.


Stop Procrastinating

Learn How to Stop Procrastinating Today!

Do you feel like your potential is severely limited due to your procrastination habit?
Are you tired of the guilt, stress, and overwhelm that comes with procrastination?

Do you want to learn the secret to getting things done quickly and effectively, so that you can increase your success in all areas of life?

In this no-fluff and action-oriented book, you’ll discover the real reason behind your procrastination (there’s only one!) and you’ll find potent tools to help you overcome procrastination for good.

To download this book, click here


Unshakeable: Your Financial Freedom Playbook

Creating Peace Of Mind In A World Of Volatility

After interviewing fifty of the world’s greatest financial minds, and penning the #1 New York Times best seller Money: Master the Game, Tony Robbins returns with a step-by-step playbook, taking you on a journey to transform your financial life and accelerate your path to financial freedom. No matter your salary, your stage of life, or when you started, this book will provide the tools to help you achieve your financial goals more rapidly than you ever thought possible.

Robbins, who has coached more than fifty million people from 100 countries, is the world’s #1 life and business strategist. In this book, he teams up with Peter Mallouk, the only man in history to be ranked the #1 financial advisor in the U.S. for three consecutive years by Barron’s. Together they reveal how to become unshakeable—someone who can not only maintain true peace of mind in a world of immense uncertainty, economic volatility, and unprecedented change, but who can profit from the fear that immobilizes so many.

To buy this book:  Tony Robbins’ Unshakeable: Your Financial Freedom Playbookimage 8288079 12866382


Who Moved My Cheese

Who Moved My Cheese: An Amazing Way to Deal with Change in Your Work and in Your Life

A short, concise book on how to deal with change. Well put and simple. This book will help you move forward and see change differently.


Man’s Search For Meaning

The Classic Tribute To Hope From Holocrust

In Wherever You Go, There You Are, Jon Kabat-Zinn maps out a simple path for cultivating mindfulness in our lives, and awakening us to the unique beauty and possibilities of each present moment. Mindfulness (being in the moment) is one of the most powerful ways to change your life and reduce worries. This book shows you how.


The Power Is Within You of you Can Heal your Life

The New York Time Best Selling Author

This book had a profound impact upon me and I refer to it often in my sessions with clients. It is an extreme example of the human spirit and shows how we can overcome harsh realities by changing the way we look at it.

Psychiatrist Viktor Frankl’s memoir has riveted generations of readers with its descriptions of life in Nazi death camps and its lessons for spiritual survival. Between 1942 and 1945 Frankl labored in four different camps, including Auschwitz, while his parents, brother, and pregnant wife perished. Based on his own experience and the experiences of others he treated later in his practice, Frankl argues that we cannot avoid suffering but we can choose how to cope with it, find meaning in it, and move forward with renewed purpose.


Tuesdays With Morrie

An old man, a young man, and life’s greatest lesson

I was enthralled by this book and could not put it down. Reading it at every available opportunity, I finished it within a day or two. Filled with wisdom. Mitch Albom  rediscovered Morrie, his college professor from twenty years ago, in the last months of the older man’s life. Knowing he was dying of ALS – or motor neurone disease – Mitch visited Morrie in his study every Tuesday, just as they used to back in college. Their rekindled relationship turned into one final ‘class’: lessons in how to live.


The Power of Your Subconscious Mind

In The Power of Your Subconscious Mind, Dr. Joseph Murphy gives you the tools you will need to unlock the awesome powers of your subconscious mind

In The Power of Your Subconscious Mind, Dr. Joseph Murphy gives you the tools you will need to unlock the awesome powers of your subconscious mind. You can improve your relationships, your finances, your physical well-being. Once you learn how to use this unbelievably powerful force there is nothing you will not be able to accomplish.


Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway

Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway: How to Turn Your Fear and Indecision into Confidence and Action

This book offers wonderful practical exercises to help you apply the theory. I have revisited this book many times. Whatever your anxieties, Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway will give you the insight and tools to vastly improve your ability to handle any given situation. You will learn to live your life the way you want – so you can move from a place of pain, paralysis and depression to one of power, energy and enthusiasm.



Essential Wisdom for Getting Through The Storm

Renowned Zen master and Buddhist monk, Thich Nhat Hanh, explores the origins of fear and offers detailed practises on how to deal with its often toxic presence in our lives. Formed by a lifetime of mindfulness in action, he also shows us the path to peace, happiness and freedom that can come out of such explorations.


Stop Thinking, Start Living

Discover Lifelong Happiness

A fantastic book that cuts through all the nonsense and shows you how to live a,ife with less complexity and mental torture! Revolutionary in its simplicity and accessible to all, this bestselling book offers common sense methods that allow you to let go of depression and tap into natural joy.

Happiness, he says, is not ‘out there’ but within, a state of mind that is independent of circumstance: ‘If you begin to see that your thoughts are not the real thing – they’re just thoughts and as thoughts they can’t hurt you – your entire life will begin to change today.’


The Five Love Languages

The Secret to Love That Lasts

If your relationship is struggling, this book will help you to find ways to gt back on track. Practical ways to improve rapport and reconnect.By learning the five love languages, you and your spouse will discover your unique love languages and learn practical steps in truly loving each other. Chapters are categorized by love language for easy reference, and each one ends with specific, simple steps to express a specific language to your spouse and guide your marriage in the right direction.


Oprah Winfrey

What I Know For Sure

Oprah has that amazing skill of connecting with most people. She has experienced a lot in life and is one of those people that learns the lessons. Organized by theme—joy, resilience, connection, gratitude, possibility, awe, clarity, and power—these essays offer a rare and powerful glimpse into the mind of one of the world’s most extraordinary women.


Feeling Good

The New Mood Therapy

The good news is that anxiety, guilt, pessimism, procrastination, low self-esteem, and other “black holes” of depression can be cured without drugs. In Feeling Good, eminent psychiatrist, David D. Burns, M.D., outlines the remarkable, scientifically proven techniques that will immediately lift your spirits and help you develop a positive outlook on life.

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Why Does He Do That?

Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

Women in abusive relationships tell themselves excuses every day. Now they can see inside the minds of angry and controlling men-and change their own lives. In this groundbreaking book, a counselor shows how to improve, survive, or leave an abusive relationship.



How I Learnt to Live with Social Anxiety

Redface is the eye-opening true story of one man’s struggle with his mental health. And how he found his own way forward in a world built for others. It will fascinate readers who are socially anxious, their friends and family, and anyone who wants to know what it’s like to travel to the edge of human experience and back

Hi! I’m Mandy and I offer face-to-face and online therapy from Guildford

If you are struggling and need someone to help you understand why things are going wrong, need guidance in your relationships, or are dealing with anxiety, low self-esteem, relationship issues, trauma and/or depression, I can certainly help you explore whatever is troubling you.

We will work as a team, and together you will hopefully feel less alone in what you are experiencing. You’ll gain self-awareness and find practical ways to improve your quality of life. I offer support, a friendly ear, and an open-minded, non-judgemental ‘therapy space’ to help you unpick your problems, find solutions and make effective and long-lasting change.

Successful therapy isn’t about qualifications alone, it’s also about empathy, excellent people skills, and the ability to put others at ease.

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Mandy Kloppers Mental Health Services

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