Be Likeable and charismatic

Likeability
Likeability

What is charisma? What do people who draw others to them like magnets possess exactly? One of the secrets of charismatic people that I have identified is that they have a talent for making others feel valued and important. Every person they come into contact with feels as if they are the only person in the world. This is one of the skills that charismatic people have.

How to be more charismatic:

1) Ask people about themselves. People love to talk about themselves. Show an interest in them and find out more. This always makes others feel great. Be genuine though – sincerity is a must. Charismatic people (think Lady Diana) genuinely like people and want to find out more about others and their stories.

2) Express empathy. Likeable people are emotionally intelligent and are great empathisers. They can easily put themselves in other people’s shoes and see the world from another person’s viewpoint.

3) Optimists tend to draw people to them. They give off positive energy and others feel regenerated and inspired after time with positive people. Most charismatic people like themselves and this self love generates positivity. Happy people tend to be less judgemental of others and this provides a safe place for people to feel they can be themselves.

When someone feels accepted for who they really are, they are given the gift of being allowed to be true to themselves. This is a freedom that is being suffocated increasingly by society.

4) Likeable people provide value – they are real. What you see is what you get. This encourages others to let their guard down and be ‘real’ too. Again, this isa liberating experience in a world where we have to remain guarded and be wary of others who might take us for a ride. A charismatic person is one who puts you at ease and lets you relax and just enjoy ‘being’. They are fun, open and honest.

5) Conviction – having values and priorities in life is crucial in understanding ourselves and knowing what we want out of life. When we are unsure of what we want and where we are in life, we tend to become introspective and we are unable to exude positivity. We harbour insecurities and give in to our fears and doubts.

Decide what is important to you. Ask yourself what kind of life you need to lead and how you ned to behave to be able to stand back and say “I respect myself and what I stand for”. The more you do this, the more solid the foundation of your life will be and the more secure you will feel. The more solid we feel about ourselves, who we are and why we are here, the more we are able to give back to others. This provides meaning and purpose, something that we all require in order to lead fulfilled lives.

Mandy X

Mandy Kloppers
Author: Mandy Kloppers

Mandy is a qualified therapist who treats depression, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, trauma, and many other types of mental health issues. She provides online therapy around the world for those needing support and also provides relationship counselling.

Mandy Kloppers

Mandy is a qualified therapist who treats depression, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, trauma, and many other types of mental health issues. She provides online therapy around the world for those needing support and also provides relationship counselling.

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