Compassion and empathy

Compassion and empathy exists but we can always do with more. Compassion and empathy is they key to tolerance and understanding. I get so annoyed when I hear people making judgemental comments such as, “Look at that fat person, why don’t they get off their arse and go to the gym” or “That person was so selfish committing suicide…”

Judgemental comments like that show ignorance and a lack of understanding. If only people could ask one word more often. That word is “WHY?”

When we look for the reasons for a person’s behaviour we may find that we have more compassion and empathy. No one is the way they are purely for no reason. Dysfunctional adults usually have a very valid reason for their issues – be that obesity, alcoholism and/or depression, to name a few. Often, they are victims in some way too and have unfortunately found unhelpful ways to cope – such as overeating or gambling or doing drugs. Yes, they are responsible for their own behaviour, but if we are able to practise the human ability of empathy and put ourselves in the shoes of others, we may be less inclined to judge.

So the next time you find yourself judging someone else, try to look a little deeper into why they may be doing whatever it is they are doing. You might be amazed at just how tolerant and compassionate you really are.

Mandy X

Author: Mandy Kloppers

Mandy is a qualified therapist who treats depression, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, trauma, and many other types of mental health issues. She provides online therapy around the world for those needing support and also provides relationship counselling.