Learn to Let Go
Sometimes, it is best for the sake of our sanity to detach from desperately wanting a specific outcome. Especially if that outcome is something beyond your immediate control. Focusing on the process, how it feels and affects us, can bring a sense of relief and empowerment rather than concentrating on the end result. Often, we cause ourselves unnecessary stress by resisting what ‘is’ and wishing things were different. It’s easy to get caught up in believing that you know what should happen, how people should behave and how things should turn out.
Are you trying to control something or someone in order to achieve an outcome? Are you fearful that if you let go and let things unfold as they will that you will face something you don’t want? If things are really stressful it’s a sure sign that you are avoiding taking your hands off a particular problem because you believe you can foresee trouble ahead if you let go. This irrational thinking will contribute to exhaustion and more stress and anxiety. Your fear of the unknown keeps you hooked into the known, no matter how awful or distressing it might be.
Remind yourself that you can’t see into the future or know the whole picture. You only have your limited perspective to base your desires upon. In this way you exclude the guiding hand of the universal forces which are acting to steer you on to your best path. If you let go of specifics you can trust that everything will be as it should be. Put your energy into desiring the best outcome for your overall well-being and happiness.
Often fear of a negative outcome draws exactly what we most fear towards us. Have you been dwelling on a worst-case scenario? Are you fearing and preparing for what you don’t want to happen? Now is the time to give it up.
Put your energy into the process and be more present in the moment. The best Samurai was the one who concentrated on the fight and did not waste energy on whether he could win or lose. Be your own best Samurai and learn to focus on aspects of your life that are realistic. Detach from the outcome and learn that there can be comfort in not knowing.
Mandy X
Author: Mandy Kloppers
Mandy is a qualified therapist who treats depression, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, trauma, and many other types of mental health issues. She provides online therapy around the world for those needing support and also provides relationship counselling.
