“What? You have an eating disorder? Don’t be so melodramatic. You just like to eat a lot and that’s why you’ve gained a few pounds. Everybody gets that way. Don’t be too hard on yourself.”
This right here is tragic. Has someone ever said something like this to you? We get that they’re trying to be positive about body image and weight gain but the way people phrase it can be pretty hurtful sometimes. It’s like they cut your chest open with a knife and slap a Band-Aid on it when they’re done talking. They tend to overstate and understate things without any regard for our feelings. They think that adding “No offense” to sentences make them sound less hurtful. They think that we always expect them to have something to say. When really, all we want is for them to listen.
If you are someone suffering from an eating disorder or you have a friend that does, we’re listening. We may not be able to completely understand what you’re going through but we get it – it’s hard and confusing and just so darn stressful. And the worst part is that nobody seems to get it. Judgement is the last thing you need. You just need someone to be there for you during this time of great need. Read this article for more info: https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/hunger-artist/201511/how-help-someone-eating-disorder.
For those of you who are not clear on what these disorders are, allow me to explain them briefly.
What Is An Eating Disorder?
ED or Eating Disorder is a condition wherein a person is unable to keep or maintain normal food consuming habits. Normal here means consuming relatively “enough” food in a timely manner. Take note that I purposely used the word “relative” there since no two people eat the same way. Enough can be a little more or a little less for some people. All in all, it means that you get to eat a certain amount of food that is commensurate to the amount of energy your body needs to actively perform.
When you’re afflicted with ED, your eating habits are deranged – to a point that it causes you great discomfort and disrupts your normal activities. The most common types of ED are Anorexia and Bulimia.
Anorexia is an excessive and compelling desire to lose weight (read more). This may not sound so bad but Anorexia patients take losing weight to its extremes. They lack the appetite to eat anything not because they’re not hungry but because they are too anxious about gaining weight. Anorexia patients are often bone-thin and yet they still feel the need to lose more weight. It is a frustrating and life-threatening ED.
Bulimia, on the other hand, is like the roller-coaster of eating disorders. It is often characterized by a binge-eating episode and a withdrawal episode. The person often overeats in a short period of time (we’re talking about a whole cake, 4 boxes of pizza, 2 buckets of chicken, etc.) then feels immense guilt because of overeating, and resorts to compensatory rituals such as self-induced vomiting or extremely long hours of fasting.
Whatever the form or type of the ED, fact of the matter is that it’s perilous to one’s physical and mental health. Instead of judging people who are experiencing such a frustrating and stressful condition, instead of giving them advice that are uncalled for, what we can really do is stand by them and maybe encourage them to seek solutions. See this eating disorder speaker, for example.
Speaking of solutions, I may just have the thing.
Yoga For Eating Disorders – Effective!
Eating disorders often transpire when a person has a disoriented self-image or when there’s a clear difference between the ideal self and the actual self as per Horney’s theory. This leads them to think irrational thoughts and having neurotic beliefs about themselves and others. So what I’m trying to say is that these disorders often stem from a chaotic mind. Rewiring, recomposing, and reverting the mind to its purest and calmest state may help improve the mood and condition of patients afflicted with ED.
Yoga is all about finding your core and focusing on your centeredness. It can help integrate the ideal self into the actual self and make a person grow to love his or her body just the way it is. It can also help ward off unwarranted and self-defeating thoughts filled with hate and discontentment. Many ED patients who have tried yoga reported positive results. It may not be enough to cure a person of ED but it certainly helps alleviate the stresses brought about by the condition.