We all experience negative events in our lives, that’s a given. Finding positives can seem an impossible task. Whether it’s financial hardship, bereavement, divorce or health issues…life likes to send us all a challenge or three.
There is a lot of talk about the attitude towards negatives in life and I tend to agree. Often, it’s not what happens to you but your perception of it that is what really counts. If you lose your job, you can either fall apart and start panicking…thinking that you might never find another good job and will end up homeless. You could also choose to maintain perspective, get a grip and see it as an opportunity to find another job that pays better, that doesn’t have a bully-boss and find time to have a week out in between jobs.
For every negative, there will be a positive. Sometimes we need to force ourselves to find positives, especially when everything seems bleak and we feel overwhelmed by it all.
I hate feeling upset and angry but it is during these times that I probably write the best blogs and learn productive ways and methods to pass on to my clients. So, in a way, hardship for me does help in some ways.
I am not asking you to deny the existence of the bad stuff, but just to remind yourself that the world is about balance and that if you make a habit of it, you will get used to tweaking your thinking. Each thought leads to a feeling which leads to a behaviour. Make your thinking work for you and you will find your mood will increase and you will be less angry and frustrated in general.
Mandy x
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Author: Mandy Kloppers
Mandy is a qualified therapist who treats depression, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, trauma, and many other types of mental health issues. She provides online therapy around the world for those needing support and also provides relationship counselling.
