Christmas can be a challenging time of the year but it can also be a time when people come together, connect and enjoy time with others. This blog post is about how toc cope during Christmas for those who find it hard work. There is forced cheer, forced family gatherings and a lot more stress for many. This blog post is for you:
Pick your battles
Christmas is only for a short duration (although it seems it gets stretched out as long as possible for commercial reasons these days!) and it’s not worth getting angry over the small stuff. If your family members irritate you, remind yourself that you only have to cope with them for a few days and then you will be able to carry on with your life as normal. Let the petty stuff go – don’t sweat the small stuff. Would you rather be right or happy? Over Christmas, it’s best to stay as happy as possible and minimise the conflict.
Don’t take it personally
Tempers can flare and the energy around Christmas can be heightened. Try not to take comments personally – let it roll off you like water off a duck’s back. Everyone will be trying to get on and have a happy family time. Often, family members who don’t particularly like each other are forced to spend time together and this is when irritability can surface as well as historical hurts. This can be worse when there is alcohol involved. If you anticipate problems, avoid alcohol and try to make the time as easy as possible. This will end in a far better outcome and not add to previous historical family sagas.
Practise tolerance and empathy
Christmas is supposed to be about giving thanks and goodwill. Remember this when dealing with others. We all want the same thing underneath – to be loved and appreciated. Think of this when you feel anger or irritability towards someone else. Perhaps they are just misunderstood. You’ll be amazed at what you can get back from others when you treat them with kindness, tolerance and empathy.
Think of those less fortunate
Some of our problems can pale in comparison when we think of those spending Christmas alone or those that may be homeless. It’s not all fun for everyone and this time of year can leave some people feeling incredibly lonely and cast aside. When you think about those less fortunate, it helps to put our own troubles into perspective.
I hope you have a wonderful festive season. Be kind to others and spread goodwill. That’s what the festive season should be all about.
Mandy X
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Author: Mandy Kloppers
Mandy is a qualified therapist who treats depression, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, trauma, and many other types of mental health issues. She provides online therapy around the world for those needing support and also provides relationship counselling.
