Fear stops us from doing many things in life-it might stop us from asking someone out because we fear the rejection. Fear might stop us from applying for a job as we worry that we will fail. Fear is like a huge ball and chain around our ankle stopping us from living our best lives.
Different types of faith
I am not religious but I envy those who find that religion helps to keep them feeling safe. Whilst I don’t have a religion to fall back on, I do realise how hope and faith can be intense and powerful emotions, that can carry us through many daunting situations. When life seems tough, hope and faith can be the bridge to happier times. Always remind yourself that hope and faith are within you – you just need to tap into them. You can choose to focus on the negative fearful thoughts or you can dismiss those and keep hope and faith close to you.
One thing that is certain in life is change. Change can be a good thing when life has thrown you a curveball – at least you can comfort yourself by thinking about the fact that life won’t always be this way. If you are at rock bottom, the only way is up.
Faith and Hope
No one has guarantees. We can’t say for sure that the person we fall in love with won’t hurt us, just as we can’t be 100% sure that we will succeed at everything we try. In order to move forward in life and not be afraid of failure or uncertainty, we need to proceed regardless. The more you allow fear to rule, the more fearful you will become. If you stop pushing yourself out of your comfort zone, you will live a limited life.
Fear is useful as it worked especially well when we were cave men and women and fear helped us to get the adrenalin going if we needed to run. Fear would often keep us safe and act as an alarm system to threat. In modern day times, fear is activated for so many reasons but ACTUAL danger often isn’t part of the equation. Sure, failure and rejection feel crap but they won’t kill you.
When you accept that rejection, failure, heartbreak etc is something no one can avoid, you can go ahead and live your life. Go with the flow and experience ups and downs but don’t avoid. Avoidance is one of the worst things you can do if you want to feel confident and keep faith and hope alive.
Mandy X
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Author: Mandy Kloppers
Mandy is a qualified therapist who treats depression, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, trauma, and many other types of mental health issues. She provides online therapy around the world for those needing support and also provides relationship counselling.
