Important lessons that many people learn too late:
1) You can’t change others so work on fixing yourself instead. Accept differences and focus on what you can change rather than getting resentful over differences that will never change.
2) It is more harmful to overparent than underparent.
Children need to learn life lessons. Learn to tread the fine line between guidance and too much control. You do your children a disservice when you try to protect them from life excessively
3) Seek a partner with similar values and outlook
The key to a lasting relationship is to be with someone who is similar to you in the basic ways – outlook, background and values. It can work if you are very different but the odds are against you. The more similar your perspective, the less conflict there will be. (ie. religion, cultural background, values, economic background)…
4) Social networks matter.
Nurture your friendships! The strength of your friendships are as critical for your health as the lifestyle choices you make. The higher the quantity and quality of your relationships, the longer you live.
5) Lust diminishes but love remains.After lust, a deepening of the relationship is possible. An acceptance and love that can transcend many of the troubles in life. Having someone ‘on your team’ in life and who supports you can act as a buffer against stress.
Mandy X
Author: Mandy Kloppers
Mandy is a qualified therapist who treats depression, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, trauma, and many other types of mental health issues. She provides online therapy around the world for those needing support and also provides relationship counselling.
