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The difference between goals and values

The difference between goals and values

The difference between goals and values is vast. Values add meaning and direction to your life. You can’t achieve a value as you can with a goal but you can live a life in accordance with your values. Goals should be set according to your […]

Why Me?? Stop the self pity

Why Me?? Stop the self pity

We all have “why me” moments. It’s a normal part of life. When life gets tough, our initial reaction is to feel sorry for ourselves and perhaps allow ourselves a spot of negative thinking like “Nothing good ever happens to me” or “I always seem […]

How to make your life more balanced

How to make your life more balanced

Everyone wants to make their life more balanced so we have shared some tips and solutions on “How to make your life more balanced”. A well-balanced life is fundamental for personal peace of mind, viability, and living well. Regardless of whether we have to work, […]

12 Core Boundaries To Live By

12 Core Boundaries To Live By

1. Never date someone who is married or has a partner. This also rules out people who have just separated, have been long term separated with no actual divorce on the horizon, and who are not over their ex. You are not a buffer/emotional airbag. You’re not […]

Head versus Heart

Head versus Heart

One of the most annoying comments that I often hear directed at me is “You’re a psychologist so you shouldn’t have any problems”.   There is this unspoken pressure to be perfect and to possess this all-knowing wisdom at any given time in life. I […]

The connection between anxiety and memory loss

The connection between anxiety and memory loss

Our memories can be affected when we are under periods of stress or experience some sort of disturbance in our mood. Having a significant anxiety disorder like GAD (Generalised anxiety disorder) can create some of these problems routinely, leaving people operating below their normal level of […]

What is Dialectical Behavioural Therapy?

What is Dialectical Behavioural Therapy?

Dialectical Behavioural Therapy (DBT) was designed primarly for people with Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorderand focuses on helping someone tolerate the uncomfortable feeling of distress. It also helps a person to learn ways to balance their emotions and not feel so overwhelmed by strong emotions. Dialectical […]

Am I a victim of narcissistic abuse?

Am I a victim of narcissistic abuse?

In a relationship with a narcissist, they tend to get healthier and the victim tends to get ‘sicker’ psychologically. Often in a narcissistic relationship, the victim doesn’t realize they are in a relationship with a narcissistic abuser. Narcissistic abuse often goes undetected because the victim […]