Manipulative people do not have a very strong sense of self. They also don’t know how to use the healthy form of being assertive in order to get their needs met.
Instead they will resort to subversive tactics in order to get their way.
Often, these people will have hidden agendas and will try to control the situation through passive aggressive means. This means they will offer subtle resistance in order to get their way.
Manipulation is about control and we are bombarded by manipulation daily – through the media, through politicians, advertisers etc
Always ask yourself – “is this really something I want to do?” If it isn’t, try to understand why you are doing it. Is it emotional blackmail? Do you feel a sense of guilt and responsibility? What is really going on?
Now there are times in life when we do have responsibilities to attend to but manipulation is different. It is more about getting you to meet someone’s elses’ objectives.
In order to avoid being manipulated, nurture a strong self identity. Focus regularly on your values and goals. Ask yourself who will benefit…
If you are feeling resentful in life, it is highly likely that it will be due to manipulation. Be alert and be aware of what is important to you.