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Positive Problem Solving
Positive problem solving doesn’t happen through constant worrying. Worrying for the sake of it is wasted energy. Positive problem solving involves finding specific action plans to remove a problem.
First of all, check your mood before beginning problem solving. When we feel low we tend to be more negative and our problem solving ability is lower. When we feel more upbeat, we are more open to possibilities. Sometimes, it is not a change in cirumstance that will fix a problem, rather it is a change in our perception or interpetation that will ease our problems.
Remember, mood is the source of the experience, not the effect.
Say for example you have a critical partner. If you adopt the ‘circumstance problem solving solution’, you will need your partner to change in order to feel happier. If we bring up the issue and our partner denies their behaviour, what happens next? When our mood is low, we might just be misinterpreting our partner’s behaviour. In a better mood, we may feel more resilient and less effected.
All I am getting at, is that problem solving does include monitoring how you see the world rather only considering changing external circumstances. Changing circumstances alone will not be the only key to positive problem solving.