Stay in the present moment
When you are in your own mind, you tend to start worrying about all the possible problems that may arise. “What if” thinking is very common for all of us but it is wasted energy. Learn to stay in the present moment – this is where your power lies. There is no rule in the “book of life” that states you must always be worrying. Worrying does not make life easier nor does it stop bad things happening. So rather adopt the approach of “I will cross that bridge when I get to it” rather than ruining the present moment with worries that may never come to pass. Of course, have goals and aims but then get back to living in the moment.
Don’t analyse the situation
Have you ever hear of the term, “analysis paralysis”? Over analysing is like putting yourself through innecessary mental torture. Don’t do it!
Accept that there are some things you can’t control
You can’t control everything. We all naturally seek safety and protection but incertainty is a part of life and learning acceptance around this can actually be a big relief. Stop resisting ‘what is’ and learn to tolerate uncertainty.
Trust in the process of life
Believe that life is unfolding as it’s meant to. At times, being philosophical can radically transform anxiety levels. Resisting what will be does nothing other than exhaust you.
Find happiness in the small things
Look for the lesson in the small things. When we are more present in the moment we allow those fleeting moments of happiness to pass through us. It could be while you are watching a sunset or sharing a giggle with a friend. Being mindful allows more peace and happiness – something we all seek.
Mindfulness takes practise especially in the fast stressful times we live in. This is why mindfulness is even more important than ever. Learn to focus your attention in the present moment regularly, 5-10 minutes three or four times a day. Focus on song lyrics, listen to the birds singing. Engage your five senses – you could try this little exercise:
focus on 5 things you can see, 4 things you can hear, 3 things you can touch, 2 things you can smell, 1 thing you can taste.
Stay in the moment, it helps us to feel calmer and promotes peace of mind.
Mandy X
Author: Mandy Kloppers
Mandy is a qualified therapist who treats depression, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, trauma, and many other types of mental health issues. She provides online therapy around the world for those needing support and also provides relationship counselling.
