Couples go through phases, and at one point, familiarity starts setting in. While you may still have the same love for each other, the novelty of the relationship and the passion that comes with it begins to wane and you start becoming more like companions than lovers. But it doesn’t have to be that way. There are tons of things that you can do to bring that spark back, and in most cases, all you need is to be a little more daring and imaginative. Here are a few ways that you can revive your relationship.
Change the Setting
Sometimes, we become too familiar with our surroundings, and just changing the scenery could change everything. You should consider getting out of the house sometimes and go for a little vacation, even if it’s in your own town. Or you could try something you’ve never done before like going on a nature gateway. Being alone in the middle of nowhere surrounded by nature could wake up a side of you that you’ve never explored before.
Another way that you can change the scenery is by starting with your room. There’s a reason why having sex in an exotic locale or hotel feels so much hotter, and that’s because you’re breaking up your usual routine.
So you should make it your duty to change at least one element of your bedroom every month. This could be the color scheme, buying new pillows or sheets, rearranging the furniture, etc. You could even add a few touches like hotels do. I mean, who wouldn’t like a nice bottle of champagne by the bed and a piece of chocolate on their pillow every now and then?
Bring Some Toys In
Men, don’t be afraid to bring toys into the bedroom. This could be a great way to not only spice up your relationship, but you’ll actually have much less pressure to perform. This way, you’ll give both of you the chance of feeling satisfied and won’t leave them high and dry.
Vibrators can also enhance the whole experience by allowing you to provide different levels of stimulation at once. The vibrator doesn’t have to steal the show, just be a supporting act. There are all kinds of vibrators you can find on the market, so check a few of them out and find one that works with your partner’s anatomy and type of stimulation they prefer.
Do Things that are Not Sex Related with Each Other
It’s crazy how seeing your partner in their element could show you a different side of them you’ve never seen before and rekindle the flame you had for them. One of the best things you can do is do some volunteering for a cause that they truly care about. This will give you a chance to see how they interact with other people, and how passionate they are about the cause. This alone could help you rediscover them and fall in love all over again.
Have Set Date Nights
You also have to give yourselves something to look forward to. This is why you should have set date nights every week. This is especially important if you have kids. A movie and takeout might be you need when the relationship is just starting and you still have heat in your eyes, but it becomes repetitive when that’s all that you do. So make sure that you actually go out and do something extraordinary. Consider ending the night at a nice hotel so you won’t have to worry about waking anybody up.
Conclusion
If you feel like your relationship is getting monotonous, then you should try using one or all of these recommendations. Sometimes, just making a few changes could be enough to spice things up.
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Author: Mandy Kloppers
Mandy is a qualified therapist who treats depression, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, trauma, and many other types of mental health issues. She provides online therapy around the world for those needing support and also provides relationship counselling.
