Save yourself and take full responsibility for where you are in life. It’s scary accepting that your life and the decisions you make are all up to you but it’s equally empowering. Decide what it is you want in your life – are you staying in a relationship that has actually had it’s day? Sometimes we justify our inaction by placing the responsibility onto others. I know people who stay in relationships that are no longer working and tell themselves they are doing it to protect the other person, or a more common one “we are staying for the sake of the children”. I can only shake my head vigorously when I hear that. Wake up – life is short. Stop making excuses.
In reality, fear is usually the cause of inaction. People don’t want to admit that they can’t face the fear and find the strength to make important life changing decisions. That’s where I come in as a counsellor. It’s my job to help people move forward and overcome fear in order to get the most out of their lives. So many of us are in denial and live with our heads in the sand.
Stop ignoring the problems, they won’t go away unless you confront them and start behaving proactively. I want to be able to look back over my life and feel that I have made the most of my opportunities and really lived instead of just existing.
Where do you feel stuck in your life? Is it your job, your relationship or your living environment? Whatever it is, start problem solving…what are your available options? There are usually choices that can change your current destiny. Don’t fear failure, fear staying stagnant.
Your life is up to you. Live each day as if it was your last and take opportunities that come your way. Don’t look back at the end of your life with regrets over what you didn’t do.
Mandy X
Author: Mandy Kloppers
Mandy is a qualified therapist who treats depression, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, trauma, and many other types of mental health issues. She provides online therapy around the world for those needing support and also provides relationship counselling.
