Sex groomers are prolific. I personally know a few and I have heard numerous stories from my clients about people who have befriended them in the hopes of getting sex out of it. These people are very clever – they act like your friend, they will give you gifts and take an interest in your life. Don’t be fooled though – their ultimate motive is more about them and what they might get rather than a true altruistic act.
Once they realise sex is not going to happen, they set their sights on a new target and their concern for you as a friend wanes. Of course they may even be in denial themselves of what they are doing which is a sad thing because they will ultimately never find happiness as they search for something in the wrong way – a disingenuous way.
They will ingratiate themselves into your life and get to know your family and friends. They will be concerned as long there exists hope of getting in your knickers. Be aware – these are NOT true friends. You will soon be replaced with a possible new conquest and their same old stalking and grooming patterns will commence once more. Grooming can take place over years not just a few months. There is an extreme nature to this individual’s behaviour and many of them possess an inner disconnect between who they really are and who they portray themselves to be. They deny who they really are and buy into the fake idea of who they try to pretend to be.
Silly me for being naive and ignoring their crude attempts to reach second and third base…real friends are there for the long haul, not just until a new potential sexual conquest seems more possible.Be aware of these fair-weathered friends.
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