We all have goals and wishes. We hope for a new job or want to ask someone out but we often procrastinate. Â Fear of failure and rejection often stop us from moving forward in life. Ask yourself what the costs to you are of delaying progress. No one wants to look back on their lives when they are older and have many “if only” thoughts.
Here are a few tips to move forward:
1) Take action. Just DOING something towards your goal puts you ahead of the pack. Most people talk and never do. Become a “doer”. Don’t think about it too much – just get stuck in. The more you do this the more confidence you will accumulate-even if the outcome isn’t exactly what you wanted, it will teach you that you are resilient and can handle life.
2) Stop being afraid. Some people are too afraid to start out of fear if failure and others don’t start due to a fear of success. Yes – we all engage in self sabotage at times. Be bold and try.
3) Have fun. Don’t make the outcome a life-or-death issue. Always keep a sense of humour and try not to take yourself and life too seriously.
4) Care less about what others think. Figure out what YOU want and go for it. Drown out the noise from others and tune in to what makes you tick.
5) Force yourself out of your comfort zone regularly. Do what you fear and your comfort zone expands. Soon you will be doing things that once made me anxious or nervous. Embrace life and see it as an adventure.
6) Visualise. Think about where you want to be, how would you act, what would happen? Visualising is a powerful too that affects brain chemistry. We still don’t know all of the reasons behind this but priming yourself is powerful and allows the physical, out-there reality to materialise. I am not talking about thinking of a Ferrari and then finding one in your driveway the next day (although who knows ;), never say never ) but rather a sense of prosperity and success that will find it’s way to you when you open up to the possibility of it existing.
Mandy X
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Author: Mandy Kloppers
Mandy is a qualified therapist who treats depression, anxiety, OCD, PTSD, trauma, and many other types of mental health issues. She provides online therapy around the world for those needing support and also provides relationship counselling.
