Stop Apologising

Stop Apologising

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Stop Apologising

When you apologise too much it send a message to others that you can be manipulated and that you are unsure of yourself. Save apologies for when they matter most.

Identify patterns

Pay attention to when you apologise. Is there a pattern? Be aware of triggers for apologies. Is it when you are stressed, tired or in the company of a particular person? Being more aware of your behavioural trends will help you cut down on the apologies that work against you.

Be more assertive

When you apologise, you are sending the message that you accept blame, that it’s your fault. If this continues, you will end up believing others have more rights than you. Apologise when you feel you have truly done something wrong, not to appease others or to be liked.

Look at core beliefs

It is very likely that if you apologise excessively that you have an underlying belief that you are not good enough and that others are somehow superior to you. Challenge these beliefs. How are they working for you? They aren’t. See a counsellor who offers cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) to reframe noxious thinking.

You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your behaviour. Talk to yourself as you would a good friend. You have every right to be here and to have a differing opinion. Be bold, be brave and you will find there is less for you to be sorry for.

Mandy X


Photo by Wiertz Sébastien