Mental health, emotional wellbeing & personal development

Stop the negative self talk

Stop the negative self talk

 

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Stop the negative self talk

We talk to ourselves all the time and the content of that self talk is often more negative than positive. This post is on how to stop the negative self talk. Many people don’t even realise that they are talking to themselves in a negative way. In fact, for many people it is just a bad habit. It’s a bad habit that can lead to limited opportunities in life. When we talk negatively to ourselves, we create self limiting beliefs that prevent us from taking risks and getting the best out of life. Do you ever catch yourself saying things like, “I could never do that” or “I’m not clever, pretty, good looking enough…etc” ? When you ‘feed’ yourself with these words, you wear down your confidence. Stop the negative self talk, it serves you no good.

Imagine that someone bought you a parrot as a pet. You put the parrot in your home and every time it sees you it insults you. It tells you that you look fat and ugly or that you are worthless. You would presumably get rid of it. Think of your negative self talk as a “poisonous parrot”.You don’t have to listen to it. Negative self talk isn’t true, it’s just made-up criticism that we can ignore if we choose to. Even better, replace the negative self talk with positive self talk.

When you catch yourself telling yourself you are stupid, say something like this instead, “I am not stupid. I am human and make mistakes like everyone else”. Ensure the messages you give yourself are compassionate not critical. The more you send yourself positive messages, the more you open up opportunities for yourself and give yourself the best chance in life to reach your true potential. It’s a no-brainer. Stop the negative self talk and treat yourself as you would a best friend. Become your number one fan!!

Mandy X