Mental health, emotional wellbeing & personal development

Tag: abuse in relationships

Loving someone toxic

Loving someone toxic

Loving someone toxic is a situation that many of us find ourselves in at some stage in our lives. At the beginning of a relationship, both people are on best behaviour and feelings can develop really quickly. By the time the warning bells start ringing, […]

Definite signs of abuse

Definite signs of abuse

Whenever I have spoken to a clilent who has experienced domestic violence, there have always been specific patterns at the beginning (by the perpetrator of the abuse) that lead to the abuse. There are definite signs of domestic abuse that you can look out for. […]

What is coercive control?

What is coercive control?

Abuse in relationships is a huge problem. A reality that goes underreported on a massive scale. Those on the receiving end of abuse tend to feel shame and often blame themselves and as a result they keep silent. Domestic abuse encompasses physical violence as well […]

Four sins in relationships

Four sins in relationships

According to John Gottman, there are four sins in relationships. These four major sins can destroy a good relationship. John Gottman refers to these four sins in relationships as the “four horsemen of the apocalypse”, in other words, with these sins present, your relationship will […]

How good is your relationship?

How good is your relationship?

How good is your relationship? Relationships come in all shapes and sizes. Some people cohabit, others live apart, some are married. Others accept polygamy and then others have secret affairs. I have seen all sorts. At times, we go into rebound relationships and don’t admire, […]

Emotional abuse in relationships

Emotional abuse in relationships

  Emotional abuse in relationships Unfortunately, many people use others to take their frustrations out on. They have a bad day at work and they transfer that anger and frustration on to a ‘safer target’ – usually a boyfriend/girlfriend/husband or wife. This behaviour is incredibly […]

Examples of controlling behaviour

Examples of controlling behaviour

Examples of controlling behaviour The following behaviors characterize a controlling person: (a) A person who insists on things being done their way. Threats of leaving or the ‘silent treatment’ is used to elicit compliance. (b) A person who tries to get the other to be passive and […]

Boyfriend makes me feel I am crazy

Boyfriend makes me feel I am crazy

    Boyfriend makes me feel I am crazy Emotional abuse is widespread and hugely underreported. This is partly because many people do not realise that they are being emotionally abused. I am seeing a client at the moment who feels as if she is […]