Mandy Kloppers – Psychologist (CBT) – Global Online Therapy
Having an active lifestyle brings many benefits. These include increased fitness, stamina, health, and also self-esteem. Studies have shown there is a direct link between physical activity and self-esteem but how does being active affect this area? Wishing to be physically active doesn’t have to mean taking part in Ironman contests or running marathons. It can mean taking some …
The rise of perfectionism is easy to see. We live in a meritocracy where you gain validation and acceptance for your achievements. Behaviours associated with competition and the attainment of social standing have risen. In recent years, data suggests that individuals across the industrialized world have become preoccupied with upward social comparison, experience considerable status anxiety, and adopt materialism as …
I get many clients asking me, “Am I a perfectionist?”. Many of my clients who suffer from perfectionism (yes, suffer – it causes a lot of unnecessary stress) don’t recognise it in themselves. When we have views about perfectionism we will invariably want to keep doing things that we feel help us to keep on top of things. Underyling perfectionism …
Research has shown time and time again that achievement does not lead to happiness. Money, power and status can help and influence your mood but it cannot create happiness. That is a state of mind that comes from a deep connection with others,a sense of fulfilment and purpose that goes way deeper than the superficial gains of money and recognition. …
Photo by x1klima When praise isn’t a good thing We all like to give and receive praise but positive feedback can have a detrimental effect when it is unwarranted and not earned. For the purposes of this post, it is important to make a distinction between praise for a person and praise for a person’s behaviour. This post is related to …
Things you don’t need for happiness Here are things you don’t need for happiness and they will help you to be more aware that life can be simpler and more fun than we realise. . I have found that many people spend inordinate amounts of time focusing on these things that are inane in the grand scheme of things: …
The difference between achievement and success Have you ever taken a moment to think about these two terms – achievement and success? There is a difference between achievement and success and the danger comes about when we see the two concepts as one and the same. I see many clients who are perfectionists and for them, constant achievement equals …
Tips for creating goals Small decisions can have a great impact that help you work towards your goal. Remember that your goals are your road maps and your direction to success in life. Without them, you can lose your way. Although you can always retrace your steps, you might not have the time, opportunity, energy or resources you …
10 Tips of the Super Successful 1) Incredible self-belief One of the most critical factors in being successful is the ability to possess unwavering self-belief. With self-belief a person will try almost anything. Without self-belief a project will most likely not even be started. A healthy sense of self-acceptance and self-approval can make up for a lack in many …
The Secrets of Success What are the basic secrets of success? Success means different things to different people. The secrets of success vary but there are some basics that apply to us all. I’ve created an infographic on the secrets of success that we can all apply… Mandy X Photo by aloshbennett