Mandy Kloppers – Psychologist (CBT) – Global Online Therapy
What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail? It’s almost the end of January and it’s time to get back to being disciplined. If you are like me, the word “disciplined” immediately conjures up resistance. A feeling of dread and being uncomfortable emerges. Focusing on where we want to be, includes accepting that we will need to give …
One of the biggest mistakes people make is meant to make life less stressful. The irony is that the more we make this mistake, the more of a struggle life will be in the long term. It sounds counterintuitive but if you take away and understand this lesson, you will already be ahead of the pack in terms of finding …
There are many ways to increase your resilience. This is good news because we can all do with inner resources to get through times when we feel overwhelmed or unable to cope. Here are 10 helpful tips to increase your resilience Top tips for resilience: Embrace failure and accept it as a part of life – kind of like an …
Helpful thinking I attended a CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) workshop led by Steve Hollon at Surrey University a while ago. He was inspirational and one of his catch phrases that he used with clients is “how is that working for you?” I love this sentence as it helps clients focus on behaviour that generally isn’t helpful. When they break …
What is your method of escape? We learn ways to escape from a young age. When the stress/distress becomes too much, we seek ways to release the pressure. Sometimes these methods of escape are positive and healthy but more often than not, they aren’t effective in the long run. Having a method of escape acts as a comfort and …
Life Traps that we all experience Life traps are situations in life that we find hard or difficult to escape from. Certain kinds of thinking and acting result in a vicious circle when, however hard we try, things seem to get worse instead of better. When we try to deal with feeling bad about ourselves, we think and act in …
There are many instances where an individual’s thoughts represent an inaccurate view of reality. In fact, I have seen many clients who have thought one thing about a situation and when we have reviewed the evidence, we have both seen how the client’s thoughts have not been a correct reflection of reality. It’s a sad state of affairs when you …
We all use escapism as a coping strategy to some degree. I quite fancy playing word games on my iphone as it brings me a welcome interruption from anxious thoughts. I can also get lost in a forensic documentary or two. it’s when escapism becomes the main form of coping that we might be heading for trouble. Some people are …
We all have problems to deal with in life. From a broken washing machine and the bank deducting money incorrectly to arguments with a loved one, bereavement and ill health. Most problems have many similarities and there is a formula that you can use to tackle many of life problems. This post is about how to approach problems and …
Photo by theglobalpanorama How to reduce avoidant behaviour Fear often underpins avoidant behaviour. When we don’t like the idea of something or it seems threatening, the easiest option is to avoid the feared person/object/event. The bog problem with avoidant behaviour is that when we avoid something or someone, we never get to test out our feared prediction. More often than …