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How to fix a push-pull relationship

push-pull relationship

Love is complicated enough without the added pressure of trying to always second guess what your partner will do at any given moment. Many of us have experienced a push-pull relationship. This is where the balance of power in the relationship isn’t equal. One person seems to chase when the other is pulling away and vice versa. All relationships go …

abusive relationship

Top reasons why people stay in abusive relationships

When I speak to people who have been in an abusive relationship, there are usually common factors. Do you have the characteristics that make you more vulnerable to stay in an abusive relationship? Abuse includes physical, mental and emotional abuse. Fear of being alone This fear can be very intense and you will do anything to avoid being alone, including …

mentally healthy

10 ways that your mental health affects your daily life

Decision making When you are engaged in healthy functioning, your decisions tend to be based on reasonable and realistic variables. If you are depressed or anxious, it is highly likely that your thought processes are unhealthy and possibly even dysfunctional. At times when I have felt depressed, I have avoided making long-term decisions that would have a substantial impact on …

10 signs you are in a dead-end relationship

    10 signs you are in a dead-end relationship Sometimes we get so used to being in a dead-end relationship that the misery we feel becomes ‘normalised’, in that we forget what it feels like to be in a fulfilling relationship. Here is a list of signs that indicate you could be living in a dead-end relationship: You don’t …

positive relationship test

The litmus test for relationships in lockdown

Too much ‘togetherness’? Being in lockdown is bound to put a strain on any relationship and too much time together can be a recipe for disaster.  How much of a strain lockdown places on a relationship is down to a few characteristics that some relationships have and others don’t. I have put together a list of what constitutes a positive …

domestic abuse

Diary of domestic abuse

Domestic abuse often follows a pattern of behaviour. I am going to identify the general evolution of  domestic abuse in this blog post: Stereotypical cases of domestic abuse involve well-documented quarrels and threats, constant belittling and complete financial and emotional control. Currently the statistics suggest that women are frequently the victims but men being vistims of domestic abuse (especially emotional …

unhappy relationship

How to ruin your relationship

There are sure fire ways to ruin your relationship. Who knows, you may already be on your way to that relationship breakdown. If you quite like the person you are partnered up with, here’s a list of things not to do: Ignore your partner’s needs Being selfish is a brilliant way to irritate your boyfriend or girlfriend. Bring yourself a …

emotional blackmail

How to deal with emotional blackmail

Emotional blackmail is a form of emotional abuse. It’s a manipulative attempt to control some one else by playing with their emotions. A manipulative person displays passive aggressive behaviour by pulling on your heart strings. They try to instil fear, obligation and guilt into their victim in order to get their way. People with low self esteem often end up …

stop arguments

How to stop the arguments you’re always having

Part of diffusing conflict is related to validating the other person’s feelings and appreciating that he or she experiences things differently than you do. This insight can make a big difference when you deal with each other during disagreements. The common arguments that are often over the small things aren’t actually about the small things. Who left the cap off …

unhappy relationship

When relationships are hard

Some of my happiest days have been spent as a single person. I have felt like I could truly be myself and forge a future that was exactly what I wanted. When relationships are hard, I yearn for my single days. Then again, it’s easy to always think the grass is greener on the other side. Whenever I am faced …