Examples of manipulative behaviour We are all unique and as such, our behaviour will be diverse as well. When it comes to manipulative behaviour there are numerous variations but there is a common framework within which most manipulative behaviour can be identified. I have put together a list of common examples of manipulative behaviour. By... » read more
Are you an emotional punching bag? By this I mean, are you in a relationship with someone who directs their frustration and anger your way? We all get angry and frustrated and we are all individually responsible for how we deal with these negative emotions. A healthy relationship consists of partners supporting one another... » read more
Before I continue with ways to identify a narcissist quickly, I want to explain that there are always exceptions to the rule. Life is made up of a lot of ‘grey’ and is never ‘black-and-white’. The tips in this blog post will give you direction and guidance when figuring out if a prospective partner might... » read more
Abusive relationships tend to cause depression and/or anxiety. Some victims of abuse remain traumatised for years after leaving an abusive relationship and many suffer from post traumatic stress disorder. Some survivors of abuse have even be likened to prisoners of war, suffering the equivalent negative emotional impact as if they had been in a war.... » read more
Your body never forgets trauma because it imprints upon your nervous system and leaves a lasting impression – almost like a permanent ‘dent’ in your bodywork. Trauma is so overwhelming that the brain struggles to process the experience correctly and the memories get stored in a jumbled up and distorted way. The body never forgets... » read more
Malignant narcissists are by far the most damaging. Not only are they incredibly selfish and self-serving, as in: “What’s in it for me?”, they also display some antisocial traits and even a sadistic streak as well as a poor sense of self and lack of empathy. There is often some paranoia involved with malignant narcissism... » read more
It’s a question that I am often asked, “Is my partner a narcissist or does he/she have autism?” There are some similarities between the two, namely a lack of empathy but this isn’t always the case. Narcissists tend to be very selfish and their behavior and focus is driven by what’s in it for them.... » read more
A covert narcissist is just as damaging as an overt narcissist but they are clever at disguising their disorder. Instead of overt behaviour, they will ignore you, be passive-aggressive or disengage and replace you without any discussion. Their actions will have the same damaging result but they will act in more subtle ways. Sometimes this... » read more
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy for trauma CBT can be used for all sorts of problems ranging from anxiety, depression to post-traumatic stress disorder. I found this brilliant summary of CBT and have copied it below: The Secret of Overcoming Verbal Abuse: Getting Off the Emotional Roller Coaster and Regaining Control of Your Life By... » read more
There are many common problems that lead to counselling, and the reasons are as varied as the many predicaments and life circumstances that exist for all people. Everyone has something that is causing them some sort of distress. Relationships, a difficult boss, an inability to socialise without fear and anxiety are all among the most... » read more