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This one thing stifles your happiness

thoughts

You may not believe it but there is only one thing stifles your happiness. This one thing has the power to create heaven or hell for you. There is nothing else as powerful. When you think about it, if this thing has so much influence over our mood it makes sense to harness it and use it to our best …

counselling for depression

How counselling helps fight against depression

There are varying levels of depression. Some people can be too depressed for counselling to be effective, (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy or Psychotherapy) and these clients are usually referred on to a Psychiatrist for help. Some people need anti-depressants to pull them out of their severe depression before they are able to respond well to counselling for depression. Having said that, …

compare and despair

Compare and despair

One of the leading causes of unhappiness in the world is due to the fact that we all compare and despair. Cognitive Behavioural Therapists refer to this as a thinking error. Often we are making a faulty comparison as we are comparing what we know about ourselves (warts and all) with the vision that others present us with. We don’t …

overthinking

How to stop overthinking everything

If you’re anything like me, and many others for that matter, you tend to overthink. It’s amazing just how much time we spend ‘up in our heads’ rather than living our lives mindfully. Have you ever driven to work and then wondered how you got there? if that’s the case – it’s because you were lost in your thoughts. It’s …

cognitive behavioural techniques

Cognitive Behavioural Techniques

I’ve been a Cognitive behavioural therapist for so long now that I sometimes forget that many people don’t know that much about Cognitive Behavioural Techniques. Cognitive Behavioural therapy doesn’t work all the time but in many instances it helps change lives for the better. Cognitive behavioural techniques can’t make stress and anxiey disappear completely but it can help you to …

coping strategies

Unhelpful coping strategies

Have you ever thought about whether you have unhelpful coping strategies? The evidence shows that we all have some type of unhelpful coping strategy. we use coping strategies to help us feel less threatened by people and the world around us. So what exactly are coping strategies? Types of common unhelpful coping strategies Denial This is a very common coping …

survival tips life

Emotional survival tips for life

We can all use survival tips for life. I have found that there are times when life feels completely overwhelming. All hope is lost and everything seems bleak. I guess it’s just a part of life but it still sucks…BIG time. Whenever I go through tough times I try to use all my experience and mental health knowledge to try …

How we create our own stress

We create our own stress more than we realise. Life is inherently stressful, there is nothing we can do about the external events, in that we can’t stop them. Debt, poverty, cruelty…there is a lot of injustice in the world and acceptance of this can help us deal with stress rather than resist and exhaust ourselves. However, apart from the …

errors in thinking

Errors in thinking

Errors in thinking occur daily, to all of us without exception. They are thoughts that come to us automatically and they are never a true reflection of reality. No one experiences reality directly, we live in this world and experience reality through our perceptions. One event may be experienced in very different ways by many spectators – this is evidence …

Relative deprivation

Relative deprivation is an interesting concept. Humans are subject to this no matter what socioeconomic group they come from. There will always be people better off than us and worse off. The thing is, we tend to compare ourselves unfavourably to others and look to those who have more rather those who have less than us. As a result we …