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Are rebound relationships good for you?

rebound relationships

Contrary to popular belief, rebound relationships can be good for you. They can provide a useful distraction from your heartbreak. They have to be appraoched carefully though and not all experts agree on whether a rebound relationship is good for you. This is where science comes in. A journal article, “Too fast, too soon?” gathered evidence on rebound relationships. This …

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Mad Confessions

  Mad Confessions Over the years I have heard many mad and intriguing confessions. I’d like to think that I have always been an open-minded person but I believe I am even more so now after working with a multitude of clients from all sorts of backgrounds. Very little surprises me these days as I have learnt that in many …

Eight Things you need to stop doing now for a happier life

          1) Stop the Guilt   Guilt emerges from expectations not met. We place pressure on ourselves to be great at work, perfect family members and social stars. Ask yourself if you do this for your own fulfilment or because of some unspoken pressure to appear fantastic to others around you. Reject guilt, it is wasted …

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How to Get Over the Sudden Loss of a Loved One

Dealing with the loss of someone you love under any circumstances can be incredibly difficult to navigate, and losing a loved one can evoke a range of emotions.   However, when the loss is unexpected or sudden, it can be even more difficult to process and to overcome. For example, a sudden heart attack or a car accident death can blindside you.   There are …

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Shower and make the bed

Yep, shower and make the bed are the only priorities on my to-do list today. This may seem a mundane statement but for most people, having only two things to do in a day would be a huge source of anxiety and guilt – how ironic! We are living in an age where we all have the “busy disease”. We …

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Subtle signs of control in a relationship

Many of us know the overt signs of abuse. Behaviour such as someone telling you outright what you can and can’t do is pretty obvious. Subtle signs of control are harder to spot but I am going to list them in this blog post. I have dealt with countless manipulators and controlling people over the years, personally and professionally and …

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Stop feeling guilty

It gets drummed into us from a young age to work hard. We are given messages that if you don’t work hard you will be a failure, not a success. These ‘black and white’messages have created generations who have forgotten how to have fun and be in the moment. Instead of really enjoying people around us, the meal we are …

Don’t give away your power

Don’t give away your power, it will weaken you over time. How do we give away our power? We do it without even realising it many times. Others want us to do things their way. They try manipulation. This can come in the form of bribery or in a more insiduous manner – emotional blackmail. When we relent and give …

Letting go of guilt

  Letting go of guilt   What is Guilt? According to the dictionary, guilt is defined as a “feeling of responsibility or remorse for some offense, crime, wrong, etc., whether real or imagined.” A guilty conscience is just that, a component of our human conscience that condemns us for our thoughts, words and actions. This innate ingredient acts as our …

Ignore these thoughts

  Ignore these thoughts Did you know that we have something like 80 000 thoughts passing through our minds each and every day? When you think about this, it is clear how important it is to become a good ‘thought manager’ who is able to separate the useful positive thoughts from the inane and the negative ones. I am going …