Emotional well being, mental health & personal development

Tag: love

Perfectionism and low self esteem

Perfectionism and low self esteem

There is often a correlation between perfectionism and low self esteem. Perfectionists base their self worth upon their level of achievement. If they aren’t successul and achieving, they feel worthless. How sad is that? They find the concept of seeing themselves as worthy just be […]

The sex god or the safe one?

The sex god or the safe one?

For some reason, I have had many female clients (and I include myself in this) who have had a hard time deciding who to start a relationship with. Should they choose the safe reliable guy or go for the bad boy who is great in […]

Do these important things ASAP

Do these important things ASAP

Sometimes we bumble along and let life pass us by without doing anything that is really important to us. We become complacent and assume we will have many more days, weeks, years to fulfil our inner wishes and desires. Now imagine how you would change […]

Stages in relationships

Stages in relationships

When you first meet, you are thriving on lust and infatuation. It isn’t love. The other person seems perfect and you are both on best behaviour initially. Most research suggests that the infatuation, “honeymoon” phase lasts up to 18 months. In these first few heady […]

Power, status and emotional needs

Power, status and emotional needs

This post is going to hold a lot of generalisations but I have definitely noticed a link between power, status and emotional needs. Let me explain. This post is about relationships and how it feels to date someone who is a workaholic. It’s from a […]

Is it love or control?

Is it love or control?

There is a fine line between love and control. We all want to be loved and sometimes love is actually control disguised as love. Have you ever been in a relationship where your partner lets you know that they know what’s best for you? Do […]

How to improve communication in your relationship

How to improve communication in your relationship

I regularly see couples to help them improve their communication. After being together for a while, communication can deteriorate, resentment can build up and intimacy and connection diminishes. Common problems with communicaton involve couples making assumptions about what their partner is thinking, usually in a […]

Relationships and commitment

Relationships and commitment

  Relationships and commitment There’s a myriad of reasons why relationships fail. Tears were shed on the proverbial couch today by Simone. She wants commitment, she wants marriage and her boyfriend doesn’t seem to want the same things. Time and time again I have witnessed […]